One of my dear friends mother was killed in a car accident. she ran into a school bus while on the phone driving into the sun and going around a curve. she didn't deserve death... she was only 36. our entire school class went to see her the morning of the accident. i am having a hard time dealing with this right now... and i know the family is too... the funeral is tomorrow. do you have any advice for me to get over this? do you know of something i can say to the family to comfort them?
2006-10-31 23:29:36 · 9 answers · asked by vitamin r 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sadly, It's going to be hard for everybody involved. There really isn't anything that anybody could "say" to make one feel better in this situation..especially when it is an untimely and unexpected thing. All you can really do is just be there for your friend and show your support with hugs, be a shoulder to lean or cry on, give a re-affirming hand hold to let them know there IS someone there for and with them....allow them to grieve..as well as yourself. Time is the only thing that will bring any ease.
If anything at all, for yourself, take an important life lesson from this by realizing time is so short and precious-as are those in our lives. Honor the memory of those who pass and relish the time you have with those still with you.
My thoughts are with you....and your friend in this time of loss.
2006-10-31 23:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a real tragedy and I am sorry for your pain and for your friend's loss. First, remember that your friend will need your support and your care and you can show your strength by being there for your friend both at the funeral and after, when it is most appreciated.
There is very little anyone can say at such a time but your friend may want to talk about the accident and want to share grief. The very best gift you can give is to listen empathetically and tell your friend that you are available anytime they want to talk about it or need help coping. You may want to do some helpful things for the family, such as preparing a meal or bringing a meal, or just dropping in to see how everyone is managing. At the funeral, simply give each member a big hug and tell them that you are saddened by the loss of their mother.
2006-10-31 23:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about your friend's mom - that's way too young to go. By attending the funeral you will be showing your support for the family in their time of grief. You will say something that comes from your heart when you feel the time is appropriate. Talk to your parents about this, it will help.
2006-10-31 23:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for them and listen if your friend needs to talk about it i know it is hard because i just lost a son but always remember that when a person dies they are not gone as long as you keep them in your heart cherish the memories that you have of them and when you see something beautiful know that your loved one is in that beauty God takes the people that he needs at the time and he needed another angel you should feel happy in time that God chose your loved one its okay to cry but life goes on and our loved ones will be missed but would not want us to give up make them proud and live a good life im sorry for the loss try to have a good day
2006-11-01 01:06:52 · answer #4 · answered by angel afraid and sad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that if she needs you ,you are only a phone call away . send flowers as well as a sympathy card to the home in a few days . Are they having a wake perhaps you could help make coffee or help serve food . Good luck and god bless you.
2006-10-31 23:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's very hard and is going to be very hard on the family. It won't really matter what you say and i am not being funny, But when my Mother passed people were comming to me and saying all sorts, to be honest i never heard one word they said to me. Good Luck away
2006-10-31 23:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by chass_lee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time will help you and just go to the services and show your support.you will have to face your own deaths one day,for we all have family or loved ones.when my dad died I was amazed that the world kept going and people around me were happy for their own reasons,babies were being born while my dad was dying.life goes on and we go on.
2006-10-31 23:40:13 · answer #7 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think about ur friend situation honey, try to be wid her and console her, ultimately u'll get rid of that tension. dont think so much about it, otherwise it 'll harm ur health.
take care
2006-10-31 23:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hang in there.
2006-10-31 23:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by answerer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋