2006-10-31 22:31:29 · 18 answers · asked by sweet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Kill the idiot and make him an ACTUAL ghost. Problem solved.
2006-10-31 22:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
The memories will always be there. But, the hurt and pain will go away eventually. It will take some time. You got out of the shitty relationship. You are a smart girl. Brave on dear. Let the experience be a guide towards finding someone better.
Give yourself time. Hang out with girl friends and have some fun. Make new friends - girls and boys. Enjoy yourself till the next good guy comes along.
Pray to God for peace in your heart and ask for his help to pull you through this rough patch. Talk to him. He listens even through you may not hear him talking back to you.
God Bless You.
2006-10-31 23:35:08 · answer #2 · answered by Tortee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!Maybe you should just make sure you stay away from your old boyfriend.You said he hurt you and betrayed you,wellthat is two things you dont need in your life anyway.Time will help the hauntings go away.When you do think of him switch gears and think about what he did to you.Lift your head up and start shopping for a man that will treat you like a lady.Stay away from him and take care of yourself you deserve better.Good luck,Hope you find happiness!
2006-10-31 22:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by one10soldier 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and do stuff with your friends. Talk to other guys. Try to distract yourself from all of the pain. One thing I would do is I would just run as fast and as hard as I could for as far as I could when I got really mad. Another thing that you could do is write him a long letter telling him how you feel. Write how much he has hurt you. You can give it to him if you want to, but I would recomend just burning it or something. Getting your feelings out will help you feel better too. It's going to hurt alot, but IT WILL PASS. But I think the only thing that will cure it is time. After a while you'll look back and not care about it.
It's not the end of the world, even if he feels like he is the end of your world.
2006-10-31 22:44:21 · answer #4 · answered by Alexia S 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A break up is like a wound in your mind.
in the begging it hurts so much that you cry out with the pain
after a few weeks its still raw but you can get on with life a little better ,
after a few months there are days when you think this wound is getting better but then some thing reminds you of him you feel that stabbing pain
after a year you still get upset when you think about it but he is almost gone
five years later its just a scar its there and it reminds you of what you had but with a little luck it will be the better things
2006-10-31 22:56:53 · answer #5 · answered by slick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had a few painful break-ups and the only way to get thro it without to much pain is:-
(1)cut all contact completely
(2)dont go to places you think he might also visit
(3)keep yourself busy
(4)suround yourself with friends and family
(5)dont have a rebound relationship straight away,give it time to heal
(6)dont put him on a pedistal,memories can be hurtful,and if you cant get him out of your thoughts,imagine him taking a dump-(it works).
(7) lastly forget any thoughts of making him jealous or getting revenge!
Take each day one at a time and soon you'll be over the worst,
best wishes L
2006-11-01 10:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by lovemeister 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Nothing hurts more in a relationship than betrayal. His memories will haunt you until you turn to other things (or person) to think about. Imagine if he were your husband and did the same thing? Talk about hurt! Grab yourself another guy, a better one this time and learn from your bad experience, it's all you can do.
Hint: Each time you start to think about him say "STOP"! It works.
2006-10-31 22:37:18 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know all about this one. I have been here and done this . It just takes time, that is all I can tell you. Don't make the mistake I did though and just jump to someone else to fill the void. Time heals all things. With the first one, I was devistated for like 3 months and took me meeting my fiancee 6 yrs later to finally get me out of my head. You just have to keep yourself occupied and when you start thinking about him, find something to do to get him off your mind. My hardest times was at night when I was alone trying to go to sleep, I spent many a night crying myself to sleep. I promise though it will get better, take it from someone who has been there. I have always been told everything happens for a reason. I guess we have to get our hearts broke to become stronger. I feel your pain and just give yourself time, just remember not to rush anything. Good luck!!
2006-11-01 05:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same boat, the only thing u can do is forget, i know forgetting isn't always easy if you were together a long time,time's a great healer i know when my ex walked out on me i felt as if i was mourning like he had died but u do get over it, trust me what ur going thru is natural. in a few months/years whatever your find love again and be happy again and just see ur ex for what he is.. ie YOUR EX hope this has helped xx take care
2006-10-31 22:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by amyday82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start keeping a journal. There r some things in a relationship that u can't tell anyone else or expect them to understand. Get involved in other activities where u r around other people and that might help u keep your mind off of him.
2006-10-31 22:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by kittymeow63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try doing things you like to keep yourself busy. See someone if it's taking alot out of you. Take care.
2006-10-31 22:47:54 · answer #11 · answered by teddytrin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋