My husband wont let me use his cell phone unless hes in the room with me. When i ask him if hes cheating on me he gets really mad and fights with me. One time when i had to go to school hes best friends Girl friend was at the house before i left and i was gone to class for 3 hours and she was still there when i got back but he tells me nothing happened. Another time was this is bad but i recored him and im not sure if it was a porn movie thats what he says but he never never watches porn before i bought the movie but it sounded like him on the recoreder and i set the recorder in the same spot put the movie on and it was two different sounds i could tell that the recoreding that i did the 2nd time was a porn and the first time i couldnt tell i dont understand will some one help me please
2006-10-31 22:04:27 · 19 answers · asked by sweet_angel180 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seems like the answer is right before your face. Maybe you should decide if you're willing to live with a liar and cheater or move on.
2006-10-31 22:09:44 · answer #1 · answered by JusMe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something doesn't sound right that's for sure. This is a tough call to make when we don't know all that is going on in your relationship.
Try to evaluate your relationship, keep tabs on;
How often you say "I love you", spend time together, kiss, touch etc. You may find that you do those things less then you thought. The two of you would then need to rekindle that passion/romance and courtship that you had before marriage.
I don't agree with cheating in any situation, but all is not lost. Maybe he has thought about it cause of what is lacking in the relationship.
The romance/courtship should never end because of marriage or kids. Put as much effort into your relationship (if not more) then all other aspects of your life.
You could try the book noted below or other from this author and complete together. Might be what you guys need. Get some counselling and start communicating what you both need/want from each other.
It may work, it may not but atleast you made the effort.
2006-11-01 07:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by SRC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I'm going to be honest. I think this is too serious to be asking it on here. This is something you need to deal with on your own or find professional help on. This isn't concerning just any guy, this is your husband. you should know his voice and how he acts.
I say trust your gut feeling, and do some more investigating, get some really good evidence. Don't accuse until you have substantial evidence, the voice recording should have been enough but hey, anything can be possible. Try setting up a camera, there are very small webcams that are cheap, I'm sure it can be easily hidden.
2006-11-01 06:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by Bitterly Sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does sound rather suspicious I'm afraid.. I have been in a relationship where I was highly suspicious of my partner and it ate away at my self esteem.. He forever made me feel that I had the problem and was mad. All along though he was sleeping with numerous women. The truth only came out once I plucked the courage up and left him. Thankfully my next man was the best thing that ever happened to me and restored my faith in men..
What excuse does he give for not allowing you to look at his phone in private?? I am not sure that recording him yourself is a good idea. Have you thought about hiring a private detective? Has he ever given you reason to doubt him in the past? What is your confidence like?
If you do find out that he has been playing around have you thought about what you would do? Just don't let distrust ruin your life it can destroy you...
2006-11-01 06:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not give u his cell phone he may b expecting imp. calls, he's best friends girl was at ur place and the rest of ur details are inconclusive.To determine whether he is cheating or not cannot be said.Maybe its just ur imagination or ur doubting a lot more. It could also be that he perhaps is cheating, so stay on guard, dont spy him or do something foolish to catch him , u could risk upsetting a faithful husband, but be on ur guard and secretly figure anything suspicious in the future.It's not necessary to know whether he's cheating or not at the very moment, u need to look into both possibilities and act wisely.I hope u've got my point by now.
2006-11-01 06:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by vio_prince 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on what you said, yes! It's all such non-sense. Don't use my cell phone? I'm watching porn? Like that's okay? Dump that loser. There are plenty of nice guys out there, give yourself some time to find one. I'm sorry your husband is such a jerk. You deserve better. Don't let his lies and anger distract you. He's full of Sh*t. Go file for divorce without further discussion. I hope you have good friends and family that can help you through this. Good luck and God bless.
2006-11-01 06:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should not get mad when you ask him if he cheated on you that is a sign of a cheater probably the best sign other than seeing him doing the act in person, go on you gut feeling ....
2006-11-01 11:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he only allows you to use his phone when your there, then he has something to hide.....if you have to go to the lengths of recording him and actually heard his voice or sounds like him then that should be a clear to you that this marriage is not healthy for you.... and well my guess from what you are saying he does seem to be cheating on you.....
2006-11-01 06:11:52 · answer #8 · answered by MR.E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might be, you didn't give a ehole lot of information. the recorder thing...he could have rented a different porn guys like to say they dont watch it if it makes the GF happy but they do. have a frien spy on him.
2006-11-01 06:11:47 · answer #9 · answered by mnm4213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he is cheating you, he should become mad when you ask him that question... how about if we come together and let him pose the same question to us, you may become mad too....you smart
2006-11-01 06:23:22 · answer #10 · answered by sam1966 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋