im getting married in 1 months but i dont know if im doing the right thing i love him, but we never saw eachother we mate on website and he wants to marry me but i dont know is that right thing.he wants me to come to usa but i leave in mosocw. please help me
2006-10-31 21:58:57 · 18 answers · asked by dollface 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im getting married in 1 months but i dont know if im doing the right thing i love him, but we never saw eachother we met on website and he wants to marry me but i dont know is that right thing.he wants me to come to usa but i leave in mosocw. hes 22 years old and me 2, he is not coming here because he dont want to please help me i dont know what to do, i tald him today that i broke up with him and he get mad
2006-10-31 22:19:40 · update #1
You really don't know anything about this man...it's not a good idea...people can say anything over the net....slow down....meet him first..then decide...but definately do not marry him
2006-10-31 22:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by Teena R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my God!
I gotta be real with u, life here is not what you think it is, but that is just the tip of the iceberg, for starters you don't even know this guy .
There is a lot of freaks out there hunting for gulible females to bring them in and sell them as sex slaves, others are lonely men with social disorders that disallow them to get a good person in their life locally so they are looking for a woman elsewhere to fool her and drag her into their messed up existence of hot pockets and Roll playing games day in and day out. or simply he is into a specific look and you fall under it!! either way be cautios, on the other side althou he sounds like a real looser he may be a genuine guy who so happens to wanna meet interesting people from other countries obviously you too match there otherwise how else did u meet?
In any possible scenario you do not know this man enough so I recommend you have him visit you or you visit him, and see how he behaves !!
2006-11-01 06:07:18 · answer #2 · answered by alephontime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
-sweetheart i understand ur situation very well.but remember that marriage is a diifferent game than when u're courting.what actually sustain a marriage is friendship and trust.this man in question i don't think u really know him well.knowing someone goes beyond his name,knowing that makes him sad and happy is always what u consider,have u both had a misunderstanding before and solved it,having misunderstanding and solving it ,is a process of learning eachother.i will strong advise that u both spend quality time together ,u can have a vacation together,u know both of u have diifferent culture[way of life].have enough time to try and know each other better.if u think u know all about him his good and bad side ,his weakness and strenght then u can go ahead.but don't take ur time.
2006-11-01 06:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by atola o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married when you come to the USA, just meet him. Tell him you need to get to know him first and maybe marriage on your second trip. Too many abusive men get wives from foreign countries then they are stuck here to live with abuse. Sorry, those are the facts. DON'T get married...enjoy your visit, then go home to think. It would be a bad mistake!
2006-11-01 06:03:05 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH NO. If he loves u like he says, he needs to come and see u. Me, personally don't believe in internet dating, but that's just my opinion. Yes, definitely u need to meet face to face. He may be emailing pics of a beautiful, handsome guy and it might not even be him. He may have a criminal record? He may be telling u he's 30 yrs old and might be 60 yrs old. Bottom line, u two need to meet face to face and then go from there.
2006-11-01 06:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by kittymeow63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't marry someone you haven't met in real life. Stay engaged. Visit him, then decide if you want to marry. He could be an abuser for all you know.
If your husband to be buys life insurance on you, then you better be careful.
Never buy life insurance unless you have children. You are worth more alive then dead.
Good luck if you have true love.
2006-11-01 06:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by RunSueRun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its up to u if u dont think that things will work then dont marry him what u could do is call of the wedding and get to know him a bit better go and see him or ask him to come and see u good luck
2006-11-01 06:03:55 · answer #7 · answered by sammlwrd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound to me like you're trying to solicit more response from men. I don't believe you're going to marry anyone you met over the internet without meeting him. I think you've made this post to get other men to respond to you, to see if one of them will pay to bring you over to the states. I can't judge though, because if I were in your shoes, I'd probably do whatever I had to do, and use whatever I had, to get away from Russia and get to the states. But don't sell yourself short. Decisions you make in your youth can and will affect you all of your life. I wish you the very best. Good luck, I think you'll need it.
2006-11-01 06:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by belle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Culture, expectations and lifestyle varies greatly from country to country.
Make sure you have the same expectations.
Maybe visit him first for a while, if it is TRUE love, you can marry.
2006-11-01 06:12:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to have good things in life you have to take a chance. I could be living in a shack and someone gives me a million dollar home... I have to leave the shack to live in the home. Your life you choose and no there are no guarantees.....pray than plan
2006-11-01 06:03:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋