At first I liked it but now it is getting worse,he doesn't like me hanging out with my friends not to mention my male friends...
and I wonder,how will he react if I tell him...
please help me
2006-10-31 21:23:36 · 22 answers · asked by Minerva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it's not wrong. maybe it's even a good thing, because that way he might understand that he is too jelous. but be aware. he might not understand it right away and will make your live living hell if you leave.
it's not a nice situation you are in, but show him your boundaries!
2006-10-31 21:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by 42 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm, this is hard. If he wasn't jealous you would probably wonder what is wrong with him! Jealousy is normal because it shows you like (or love) the person. However, if it gets to be too much, I would just sit down and talk with him, that's all you can do. Explain how you feel when he gets jealous or why you don't like him giving rules because then you feel guilty doing something when you probably aren't even doing anything bad. I have this same problem with me and my boyfriend except it is reversed. I think sometimes when a person doesn't show as much interest as the other one, its easy to get jealous because you are wondering if they really like you. Say you hang out with guys all the time but are sometimes too busy to hang out with you boyfriend. Stuff like that might make him think, oh, so I guess she doesn't like me as much as them. So you should DEFINITELY prove to him that you like him more than anyone else, give him attention, talk to him, and tell him how much he means to you. If you just talk to him without it acting like you truly care, thats the same thing that friends do. There are many reasons why people can get jealous (insecurity, long distance, if a past gf/bf cheated and you have doubts what your new one is doing, feeling that they have lost interest in you) so I would be patient before just dumping him.
2006-11-01 16:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's wrong. I've personally experience this before exactly as a guy who doesnt want her girl to mingle w/ guys. Well, i've realized/learned alot after loosing the girl that i really love.
Now I know the root cause why this exact scenario happens and can be resolved. You both needed to talk hear to heart, honestly and be open. Remember that indiferrences even exist in marriage.
TALK ABOUT THE REASONS OF WHY YOU LOVE EACH OTHER ALL THE TIME, and you will both likely strengthen TRUST, the element that kills the killer 'jealousy'
2006-10-31 21:45:56 · answer #3 · answered by benchlopez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being overly possessive and / or jealous is the character trait of a person with severe control issues and one of the major warning signs of a potential abuser. Isolating you from friends and family is only the first step. He will not stop until there is not a shred of your personality left. Get out while you still can.
2006-10-31 21:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing in a healthy relationship is sharing and respect. If you can engage in a frank conversation with him, and if your really do not give reason for him to feel insecure about your relationship (if you are used to flirting for fun, provoking other guys, ...) it is best to know exactly what you want from this relationship. There are better things to do in life than to feed a gruge. You can only learn about his reaction if you try. If you feel guilty, you will probably start an argument and that won't do. Make sure you know where you stand first.
2006-10-31 21:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by eliana s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong with breaking up with him for those reasons. We have to realize that jealously is just as dangeous as anger. Sounds like your friend has a self esteem problem. Until he deals with that, he will continually lash out at his loved ones.
Be careful in the breakup, make sure he is not abusive in any other ways.
2006-10-31 21:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by egg_sammash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This kind of extreme jealousy should alert you that this is a very serious concern and it won't get better. Think of how trapped you will continue to feel if you even have to worry about seeing female friends. He appears to have big control needs and appears to be insecure. I wouldn't want to find myself in this unhealthy kind of relationship. It is not only "not wrong" to break up with someone for this reason it is also advisable.
2006-10-31 21:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a clear sign of insecurity as well as immaturity.
We all suffer it at some level, but with a sense of maturity this can be overcome.
If he is stiffling you and preventing your own personal growth and persuit of things you value - I don't see how you can find it wrong.
How will he react depends on his maturity level - my best guess is he'll react childishly, have a fit, be angry, cry, beg...and stalk you hoping you'll break.
If you stand firm on the break up, he'll eventually grow up.
If you waffle and take him back - he'll be okay for a very short while - called "the honeymoon period", and then he'll resume to his old ways again.
Cut him loose.
"You can't live with another until you first learn to live with yourself"
2006-10-31 21:28:41 · answer #8 · answered by Warrior 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never mind him, do whats best for you. I agee a little jealousy is sexy sometimes, but when it reaches a certain level its a problem. If you don't stop it now it WILL only get worse, I know.
End it before it breaks your beliefs and important friendships.
2006-10-31 21:28:55 · answer #9 · answered by yarisgp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jelousy meanz he lovez u. So, it wouldn't be a good idea to break up just for that reazon, but only if u love him back..
if thatz the case, try talking to him , let him understand how bad hiz jelousy makez u feel.
2006-10-31 21:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by CupCake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋