When i was about 4 (i still cant say) I was abused by my uncle atlast it was out in the open but the person who i thought would protect me started his own - My father. This went on for years and i couldnt get the courage to stop it cos when some in the family heard of that of my uncle they blamed me.I'm now 24 and have since moved out of the house. I used to hate men generally thinking that what all they ever wanted but now i have this great guy - he has shown me respect, love and everything a woman can ask of. Many times we've engaged in some pettings but when it starts getting heavy i always call a halt. He respects my wishes but i feel i have a problem cos i feel as if i want to throw up whenever he gets too close to the privated areas. i love him but i never want it to go farther. He wants to marry me and i do too but i feel this would be a big problem in our marriage. I cant talk to a psychaitrist face to face. is there a way i can talk to one online?
2006-10-31 20:40:00 · 9 answers · asked by purpled 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Hi honey, I'm very very sorry to hear about what happened to you. You are doing the right thing, you do need to talk about this with someone. Why don't you start out by calling the Samaritans, here is their website:
http://www.samaritans.org.uk/
Good luck and I hope you manage to work through your problems x
2006-10-31 20:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im very sorry to hear that, Im sure if you do some research you could find an online chatroom, however, I think in this situation the only way you can accept and move on is if you are able to openly talk about it to people you trust. Start with your partner tell him everything do not be ashamed it was never your fault.
Try calling crisis line or another telephone service, all numbers should be found easily enough online.
Speak to a councellor try to come to terms with it and dont let your past dictate who you become otherwise your uncle will have managed to destroy your life, we all have fight in us you just need to find it.
I understand its hard I have seen a councellor for different reasons however I can completly empathise with you. Please seek help and try to get over the fear of talking face to face trust me once its said and done it wil be a big weight lifted.
Good luck
2006-11-01 05:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry about the tragic events in your life as a very young girl. Stories like yours make me so sad & very angry.
However you have been blessed with great man now. Do not miss this wonderful opportunity for happiness. Any professional help you receive as conselling should be priviliged and confidentual. Do not carry this heavy burden alone. When your "secret" is out, when you share it with your conseler you will feel sense of releif & lighness. Do not "bottle" inside your body & spirit those horrible secrets. You have nothing to fear. You haven't done anything wrong, quite contrary you have been robbed from your childhood by the same people who was upposed to protect you - sick!
Good luck!
Much love & many blessings!
2006-11-01 05:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i am so sorry you had to go through all that. I am not sure whether you can talk to someone on line but i think the best thing is to talk to someone face to face you will be surprised how much good it will do you. You can look for support groups and share your story with other women who know and understand what you are going through. Please if you want to have a happy marriage with this guy you have to open that door and close it once and for all,other wise it will cause problems in the future.Have courage and face that demon. GOOD LUCK
2006-11-01 04:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by destiny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should forget that past(i know it so hard) because life must be go on. You have to face all this sort of problems if not you are the one in trouble in your life. Talk to someone you trust like counsellar or even your best friend. You should be greatful with the man who love you because he respect you all over you and he still want to be marry with you. Not all man are same.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-01 04:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by kate lee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will help to talk about this to your friend or support group. I understand this is hard for you but you have to be strong and seek professional help. You should not be held captive of your dark past. You got to move on and have a life. Don't deprive yourself of that happiness you deserve.
2006-11-01 04:48:41 · answer #6 · answered by frandonn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends which country you are in but i would ring the local womens health clinic & they can give you a number to ring
i hope everything works out well for you as you deserve some happiness after what these mongrels have done
2006-11-01 04:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by cowboys4lee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u gotta start facing ur fears and the first step would be seeking counseling. u have to do it..
2006-11-01 04:43:17 · answer #8 · answered by the freakin' analyst 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you must accept that it was only your uncle's fault!
2006-11-01 04:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by pianoboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋