ok, this is an adults only question, serious answers only please,
my husband and I have a very healthy sex life, tonight after he fell asleep I decided to wake him up, so I gave him a bj, he lays there enjoying it for 15 minutes, and then I roll over to my side of the bed thinking, ok he would join me.
not
he falls asleep
then he has the nerve to wake up an hour later and want to have sex, I would not let him touch me, I told him I was in the mood an hour ago and if what I did didn't turn him on and get him excited I didnt know what would,
so now he is mad at me, as if I had no right to be upset that he fell asleep, it really hurt my feelings. And before you answer, please don't say maybe he was tierd, come on guys, we all know better than a man being THAT tierd!
2006-10-31 20:12:38 · 30 answers · asked by stephaniencurtis 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh he was awake, he fell back asleep afterwards, and he totally remembered me doing it as well, it wasn't like he never woke up, he went back to sleep afterwards
2006-10-31 20:19:18 · update #1
Of course, you are correct to be upset, you have every right. He is totally 100% in the wrong. He was lucky you decided to wake him up like that in the first place, and you were right to expect some fun after you had finished what you were doing, or even while you were! However, communication is the key, and if he didn't get the hint that you wanted some fun too, you should have been comfortable enough to tell him, once he didn't do anything. I have to side with you, he has no reason to be upset with you, if that happened to me, i would think i had won the lottery !
2006-10-31 20:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by royster 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Everyone makes a mistake here and there, it is a known fact that after sex there is a chemical in man's brain that kicks in and he will fall blissfully asleep. I'm sure that he didn't mean to hurt your feelings, he didn come around right? Forgive him this one. But instead of rolling over to your side waiting for him, get close, snuggle, trace your fingers around his face, neck, chest, keep him awake! It takes a guy a 'bit' for things to kick back in, so if your keeping him awake, in a loving way... he'll come around :) Good luck next time!
2006-10-31 20:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by JazzyLynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some guys that can sleep through a earth quake. Don't take it so personal the guy just was not awake enough. The next time crawl on top of him and do a little lovin around his face and neck that way you know you will wake him up.
2006-10-31 20:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can honestly say I have never been that tired that I would sleep through a sex act of any kind , but I have gone to bed with the childish attitude that she isn't getting sex tonight because of something she has said or done and try as my lady might ii just refused to relate to her demands . so perhaps he carried a grudge to bed and after consideration he though better of his decision not slide over your side of the bed . who knows what in reality he was thinking but he came around and a you closed the door just as hard as he did . kiss and make up , its just a misadventure on both parts. it seems sometimes the arguement is worse than the act that started it.
2006-10-31 23:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by slick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl if he didnt enjoy ur service he wouldnt hav woken up again...after an hr...u did take all frm him by givving him a good bj...& did he just sleep off without caressing u...if he did he was sure not ready fo sex,but u made him 'c u m' anyways.....it took him some time to get off that sleepy head & recharge for another 'c u m' to do good with u...
does it happens always when u hav sex that way, is to be chked too...& if not then why make so much hue & cry? marriage sure makes the spouse to take each other easy at times...fine u made ur point ..now just patch up...& moreover if u wanted him to join u..that to when hes all sleepy..u should hav done something like get him half way & then let him ask for it by joinin u...just put urself in his place & figure it out..maybe being woken up frm deep sleep & get that oral sex...relaxed him so further that he couldn't help but doze off...& now that u annoyed its embaressing him & getting him on guard...hope u dont get urself in such situation & he does understand...
best wishes
2006-10-31 21:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by chcuda9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happened to me a number of times, once i was very mad at my husband for saying that he thought it was a dream (me giving him bj). well by the time i reach him after putting my little ones to sleep , he will be already asleep, i had a very bad time for almost a year ,coz our time wouldn't match. sometimes my husband wakes me up at 3 in the morning . so u c u have to learn to adjust. then we came up with a solution, that we will do every alternate days. so we both know when to expect. come on don't let these little things come in between u both, coz these little disappointments will stay in ur mind and u wont be able to have a better sex , so go to him and talk it over with him. and one more advice , don't keep today's things till tomorrow , if u have a problem solve it today b4 u go to bed. that will help u to tighten ur bond with ur partner.. Don't worry , and all the best.
2006-10-31 20:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lucky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is possible for a man to be that tired. especially if you woke him up with the BJ while he is in Deep sleep, or certain levels of REM sleep.. its possible he did not fully wake up while you were doing that.
He was likely more upset at how you spoke to him than at the fact that you didnt give him sex. Also,, from personal experience, being punished for something you feel you cannot help will upset anyone.
2006-10-31 20:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by roy H 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you wanted to have sex, why did you roll over and expect him to know that you wanted him to join you. He isn't a mind reader. You should just hopped on, if the bj didn't wake him I am sure that feeling himself in some warm p*ssy would have. Next time don't roll over and expect him to join you, you have already initiated the act so why not finish it off? I have just hopped on plenty of times and I have never been disappointed as a matter of fact, my husband LOVES it, And lastly, he probably thought that you were going to sleep yourself when you just stopped and rolled over. And there are times (although few and far between) that men are THAT tired.
2006-10-31 20:40:39 · answer #8 · answered by juicie813 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If everything else in the relationship is good I dont think you have anything to worry about. Just get over the fight. its not that big a deal in the overall scheme of things.
The bottom line is sex is only ever going to work if both people want it at the same time. sometimes you might not, sometimes he might not. thats life.
2006-10-31 20:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by Shaun A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you woke him up with a bj and he enjoyed it and then wen t back to sleep he was just being selfish ..but think about this you woke him up so maybe he was trying to reciprocate by waking you up and you were in a position in bed that he couldnt do the same
2006-10-31 21:03:47 · answer #10 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋