2006-10-31 19:41:53 · 23 answers · asked by mjallebawalsah21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
nope. marriage is not for everybody. some are ment to marry while others are ment to play teh field. i dont buy into the whole there is someone for everyone.
2006-10-31 19:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really consider Marriage something that is necessary to do, Marriage is a life long commitment that you make to you, your spouse and you do if before God, family, and friends. I think that you should get married only if you trully honestly know that is what you want to do. It is so easy to get married the had part is making the marriage work. I don't know if you have kids or not, but I think that it is harder to have kids and get a divorce then it is to not ever be married. I got married when I was 17 years old, I got pregnant, and thought that it was the right thing to do. I had only KNOW my husband for 10 months, and been with him for 8 months when we got married. Shortly after we got married I had realized that I had married him for the wrong reasons. I Love him don't get my wrong, but I don't think that I should have gotten married. Now we have been marred for 41/2 years, have 2 kids and I found out about 6 months ago he was cheating on me. Even though I had thought about a divorce a long time before that, I still cannot bring myself to leave him because of the promise that I mad to him, before God and our family & friends. Even though We have not split up or anything our kids have shown a great deal of behavor problems since all of this has been going on, and they are 4 & 2.
I think think that in this day and age that it is perfectly fine to not get married. I think that it is better to not marry than it is to get a divorce just because you find yourself second guessing your decision latter on. One more thing that a person should take into consideration, when you get married, you get a whole new family. And in some cases the spouse gets so close with the in-laws, and if the marriage ends sometimes so does that bond.
There are a lot of things to think about before you go and just jump in head first...
I don't know what your situation is but you just need to ask your self and the Lord to help you answer this one.
Good luck and God Bless You.
2006-11-01 04:30:30 · answer #2 · answered by knlsmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Necessary" is not the right word. Over 1/2 of all U.S. marriages end in divorce - it's because people get married too young and grow out of their spouse. 40 years ago, everyone was married by the age of 25 - now, many people don't get married until their mid 30's. People want to live before they settle down; they want to accomplish personal goals before the share their life with someone else.
I'm 29 and just had my second baby with my girlfriend. The first time around, everybody asked "So, when are you gonna get married". This time around, its "So, you're not gonna have anymore kids, are you?".
Why get married just because of a child? If we decide to get married, it'll be because we want to, not because everyone thinks we should. Most of it comes from Christian people - understandbly.
So, No, not everyone should get married. It's a personal decision not to be forced.
2006-11-01 03:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by goodtimeskaraokecompany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Most America people are against marriage and would rather live unattached to someone else so they can make more money, and feel they are more "independant" which is a relative term.....(no one is truly independant, but thats another topic.)
In fact, relationships today is like a rent-a-car service or buying a car that you'll one day replace. You date different people every few weeks, find one you like enough to live with for a few months, or a few years, then dump them when things get a little difficult and jump to the next best thing, continuing the cycle.
I'd rather be with one person though, that I can trust and have a deep and meaningful friendship/love-life with. But not everyone wants that. In fact thats frowned upon.
2006-11-01 03:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its a personal choice. If u wish not to get married u are free to do so. However, your parents or ppl near to u may want u to get married. Also I feel if u are a girl, there will be more family/social pressure to get married.
2006-11-01 03:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by Heista 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT. Not everyone is marriage material. Think about it.......how many people do you know that have been married 3-4 times? That should be a pretty good hint.
2006-11-01 04:48:24 · answer #6 · answered by c_my_blueeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
I'm married and loving every minute of it. It's really not easy, but it is definitely rewarding. There are many things you are able to share. I personally am thankful that I am married and have my husband to laugh and cry with. He is my sun and I am his moon.
2006-11-01 04:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you didnt WANT to get married or feel unable to have a faithful commited realationship with someone then NO.... but hanging in a relationship for years on end and never getting married is a little tacky too....
2006-11-01 04:17:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, but everyone should have the right to get married, and the right not to be forced to marry.
2006-11-01 03:45:39 · answer #9 · answered by sangheilizim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not, a lot of young kids are getting married, and having kids, then they divorce, and they have no career,
2006-11-01 03:46:16 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋