Who agrees with me that Gays and Lesbians were not born this way? That they made the choice to live an alternative lifestyle and to alienate themselves from society and to cast a cloud of shame on their families? Do you agree or disagree and why?
2006-10-31 18:56:54 · 15 answers · asked by kyles_aunt_jenny_age_24 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Prove to me in words or a website giving the study that states they are born with same sex tendancies.
2006-10-31 19:03:39 · update #1
I would be extremely upset if my child chose to be gay. They aren't born that way, and i'll make sure my child knows this so they can make good decisions about their sexuality and not screw themselves socially by being gay.
2006-11-01 16:33:13 · update #2
NO.GAYS ARE BORN INFERIOR
2006-10-31 22:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by someone 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Don't you think if gays and lesbians for the most part CHOSE it, some would REMEMBER choosing it?
Do you know how many gays have been aware of their same-gender attractions since VERY young ages?
Why is it so important to you to prove that it's a choice, when there are no studies really proving that it is, and many studies suggesting (or partially proving) that there are biological factors involved ....
Studies like:
- the one about different-sized hippocampii in the brains of straight and gay men, or
- the twin studies, or
- the study that shows that men with multiple older brothers are biologically more likely to be gay, even if they didn't actually grow up with any of those older brothers ( they believe it's a chemical process in utero....subsequent males born to a same female have an increasing likelihood of being gay in adulthood, even if adopted into other families) or
You want ONE DEFINITIVE study or website. It's possible that we don't have the scientific evidence - yet. (Science is a constantly evolving field of knowledge, but requires funding to do proper studies.) But the studies that have been done are certainly leaning in the direction of implicating genetics.
Especially when you factor in that animals (who are not generally deemed to have the level of free will that humans do) often exhibit same-sex activity. This has been documented in a subset of the population in hundreds of species. Some primarily mate with the opposite-sex but engage in sexual activity with the same-sex. Others actually mate permanently or form lasting pair-bonds with a same-sex mate. (So much for the claim that homosexuality is 'not natural'. 'Nature' definitely partakes in it!!!!)
2006-11-01 04:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by ladyfraser04 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
by the way you've worded your question, you've already formed your own, albiet incorrect, opinion. and by your own argument, then straight people aren't "born that way" either. when did you make the choice to be straight? you didn't, did you. because it's genetic. I didn't "choose" to be lesbian...and it's not a "lifestyle". it's simply who I am. and, hate to burst your tiny bubble, but I'm not alienated from my family, nor have I "cast a cloud of shame" on them. they know I'm lesbian, and they still love me and accept me.
HETEROSEXUAL QUESTIONNAIRE
(©1972, Martin Rochlin, Ph.D. Reprinted with permission from the author.)
This questionnaire is for self-avowed heterosexuals only. If you are not openly heterosexual, pass it on to a friend who is. Please try to answer the questions as candidly as possible. Your responses will be held in strict confidence and your anonymity fully protected.
1. What do you think caused your heterosexuality?
2. When and how did you first decide you were a heterosexual?
3. Is it possible your heterosexuality is just a phase you may grow out of?
4. Could it be that your heterosexuality stems from a neurotic fear of others of the same sex?
5. If youve never slept with a person of the same sex, how can you be sure you wouldnt prefer that?
6. To whom have you disclosed your heterosexual tendencies? How did they react?
7. Why do heterosexuals feel compelled to seduce others into their lifestyle?
8. Why do you insist on flaunting your heterosexuality? Cant you just be what you are and keep it quiet?
9. Would you want your children to be heterosexual, knowing the problems theyd face?
10. A disproportionate majority of child molesters are heterosexual men. Do you consider it safe to expose children to heterosexual male teachers, pediatricians, priests, or scoutmasters?
11. With all the societal support for marriage, the divorce rate is spiraling. Why are there so few stable relationships among heterosexuals?
12. Why do heterosexuals place so much emphasis on sex?
13. Considering the menace of overpopulation, how could the human race survive if everyone were heterosexual?
14. Could you trust a heterosexual therapist to be objective? Dont you fear s/he might be inclined to influence you in the direction of her/his own leanings?
15. Heterosexuals are notorious for assigning themselves and one another rigid, stereotyped sex roles. Why must you cling to such unhealthy role-playing?
16. With the sexually segregated living conditions of military life, isnt heterosexuality incompatible with military service?
17. How can you enjoy an emotionally fulfilling experience with a person of the other sex when there are such vast differences between you? How can a man know what pleases a woman sexually or vice-versa?
18. Shouldnt you ask your far-out straight cohorts, like skinheads and born-agains, to keep quiet? Wouldnt that improve your image?
19. Why are heterosexuals so promiscuous?
20. Why do you attribute heterosexuality to so many famous lesbian and gay people? Is it to justify your own heterosexuality?
21. How can you hope to actualize your God-given homosexual potential if you limit yourself to exclusive, compulsive heterosexuality?
22. There seem to be very few happy heterosexuals. Techniques have been developed that might enable you to change if you really want to. After all, you never deliberately chose to be a heterosexual, did you? Have you considered aversion therapy or Heterosexuals Anonymous
2006-11-01 09:21:38 · answer #3 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who truly knows any gay person knows that they did not choose to be gay. Who would choose a life of being discriminated against, of being ridiculed, of being denied the freedom to do something as simple as hold hands with the person you're seeing? Of being told by the majority of people that you can't even have a meaningful relationship with God? What, just to be different? You're wording of your question shows an incredible lack of real life experience. And I can't help but wonder why someone who seems to obviously already have their mind made up about this would bother getting other peoples opinions. Do you really have your mind made up?
2006-11-01 03:17:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
There's no conclusive proof either way, although there is some evidence (inconclusive tho) of natural cause and nothing except blind faith in favour of it being a choice, unless you count the false choice of being open about yourself or suppressing your feelings.
And since you want a citation of the evidence... "Sex on the Brain," by Deborah Blum. Chapter 5.
2006-11-01 14:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by angiekaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you people!! You keep asking the same question, and we keep giving you the same answer. What part are you not getting...are we using to big of words, is the fact that we were born this way too much for your little brain to comprehend...
2006-11-01 09:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by geminilovingacancer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would somebody choose this lifestyle? Would you choose to be harassed, beat up, not be able to marry the one you love, lose friends, lose family, lose your job, and to not have the same rights as everyone else? I'm so sick of this kind of question! If it was a choice, why would people choose to take the much harder route in life?
2006-11-01 07:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by lynnca1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you 100%.I decided one day that I would be gay.When I was around 8 years old my mother gave me up and called me a pervert.But I chose that.At 10 years old I was attacked by the kids at my school because I was different.But I chose that.At 22 years of age I was shot at because I was near a gay bar.But I chose that.Currently I am in a relationship with someone I have been with for 6 years but we can't legally be married or have the same benefits that heterosexual couples can have in the same relationship.But I chose that.Throughout my life I have been laughed at and alienated by people based solely on who I love and who I am attracted to.But I chose that.I have to be afraid to be myself in certain areas and have to keep secrets when working.But I chose that.I couldn't join the military because it would mean a life of secrecy and having to lie to everyone about who I was.But I chose that.I have been called names and have to tolerate people saying who I love and how I love is a sin.But I chose that.I have to listen to people compare my relationships with bestiality.But I chose that.
Yeah sure, I chose that.Some choice, huh?
2006-11-01 03:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by BuckFush 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You have got to be kidding me. Of course they are born with their homosexuality. What planet do you live on? People don't 'choose' to 'shame' their families. And it is in no way shameful to begin with. It is people like you that cause them to feel alienated. Love is unconditional and should never be judged. If you can't deal wtih love between 2 consenting adults I really feel sorry for you.
2006-11-01 03:06:02 · answer #9 · answered by vanessa 1 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Disagree, some are born with same sex tendencies.
2006-11-01 02:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by Diamond in the Rough 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Disagree-born this way!
2006-11-01 03:12:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋