I stopped working 4 years ago when i had my 1st born. Was recruited by some new set-up when he was 2 plus only to b given the sack when i informed my boss of my pregnancy 6 months later. But that's another story. I am worried that i won't fit into the working world. I am full of doubts. My brain cells seem to have dissipates with every childbirth.
2006-10-31 18:54:05 · 10 answers · asked by Yellow face woman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to realize that your giving childbirth has not affected the way you act in the working environment. If anything, it has only placed you in the majority of women who are working. Most woman who need that kind of money are doing it to support a family. You are not special, and you need to realize that as long as your commitments at home are not affecting your ability to perform adequately at work, that you are just as capable to keep a steady full/part time job and be an effective employee.
It's time that you face this and stop trying to blame your hesitations and lack of motivation on your children. I'm sorry that you need to hear this from a stranger, but if you have sought this advise from friends, they would clearly have a difficult time telling you the brutal truth. You are not a victim. Get your act together and get back to the office if you need the finances.
2006-10-31 19:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by pantherboy5 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well you have been a housewife for 4 years and now you feel that you wish to walk out of your comfort zone and rejoined the workforce. I believed that this is a good move but the working life now is very different from 4 years ago. Nowadays most employers expect their employees to be multitasking.
You need time to fit in a working world and it is just like when you first leave school and join the work force type of feeling. I believe that during the initial stage you may have problem coping with the work but as time goes by I think you can gradually fit into the work force. All the best to you
2006-11-01 03:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anxiety and doubt are common in individuals re-entering the work force. At least you know what to expect. After graduating college I had the same doubts about being intellectually competent to perform a job. But I soom learned all of that worrying was for nothing.
To calm your nerves for now I would brush up on your prospective occupation by checking out some books at the library. Just think positive and tell yourself you can do anything and as cheesy as that sounds, after a while you will start believing it.
Good Luck!!!
2006-11-01 03:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by gjjr2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean by the brain cells dissipating...with each child, you seem to lose more and more. I went back to work, after being home for 12 years, and I was nervous too, but I've been working now for 5 years. You'll be fine. Its hard to juggle both sometimes, but you can do it!!!!!
2006-11-01 22:31:50 · answer #4 · answered by Gaia Weeps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for you to feel this way since you are away from the workforce for years. Be more confident with yourself, you'll need to take some time to get back to the working momentum, dun worry so much, just do you best.
Maybe start by shopping a few working clothes and that'll prepare your mind to the new workforce.
Good luck !
2006-11-01 20:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by Rootbeer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean, because I'm in the same boat. I'm going back to work in a few months after staying home with my son for a year and a half. I keep telling myself that my son may have changed my life and bits n pieces of me, but he didn't take away from my skills and talents. He only added to them. I'm more knowledgeable, stronger, and most of all, I have purpose. But more than anything else, I feel guilty. I feel like I'm choosing to leave him behind. I know you're scared, I am too. If we made it through childbirth, we can make it through anything! :) Best of luck.
2006-11-01 03:15:34 · answer #6 · answered by munkees81 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had exactly the same feelings after returning to the work force after 3 1/2 years. Once you get into the swing of things it will be like you had never left.
Your a mum you can do anything!!!
2006-11-01 03:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't sell yourself short. I was a SAHM for 8 years before re-entering the working world! It was difficult, but not impossible. The hardest part was getting a routine down for doing the housework in the evenings! It will be good for you to be around adults again! Go get 'em!! Good luck!
2006-11-01 07:49:34 · answer #8 · answered by busymomof4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will be ok. Take a deep breath and go back to work with a positive attitude. It will be good for you and your child as well. As a mom myself sometimes going to work is a good break for us. it helps to strengthen our relationships with our kids. Don't worry about not fitting in hun, many of us are in the same position you are so you WILL fit in more than you know. Good luck, You can do it!!!
2006-11-01 03:35:55 · answer #9 · answered by Shortydeb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you need to know why do you want to get back to work.
Give yourself all the positive answer for you to get back to work.
It will help.
2006-11-01 03:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by David Fhu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋