In the beginning, it was great, they said I could come by anytime to hangout, now my parents didn't like me over there house but they got over it, but now It seems that we don't hangout much anymore, two of them which stay under there girlfriends alot, now don't get it twisted, I by no means is jealous, I'm very happy for them, It just when I'm at there house, they either on there cell phone with or in there room with there GF's, my bestfriend(there roommate), if he not tired, would talk & hangout, but its not the same without the group, I know we all crazy work schedules, so I understand from that standpoint, but sometimes when they are home(for most of the day), I would come by and sometimes they won't even answer the door, now I also feel that I have a part in this aswell, maybe I overstayed my welcome(I did come by alot) to a point I annoy them? well I know sure today when one of them pull up in the driveway, I look the other way(cold I know),
So What Should I Do?
2006-10-31 18:30:53 · 6 answers · asked by princeblade411 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
that's kind of a hard thing to come by. i know how that is.... i only have a couple of friends and i serously would bend over backwards over for them b/c they're all i've got left... they are my family and my friends.... but i think they are moving on... without me.... and that's o.k. just be as patient and understanding as you possibly can. don't give up on them even if for a moment it seems like they gave up on you. stick by their side and be a good friend and they are sure to come back to a great friend like you.
2006-10-31 18:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by Yemi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay oh boy I have been with my hubby since i was 16. To get to the point of your ? is that when you do go to someones house alot. They do get sick of ya coming over everyday. To hang out sometimes its easier not going there so much. So when you do go there they will be more glad to see you. We have had people come over for days on end it drove me nuts. For the reason that geez don't you have a home of your own. TO HANG OUT AT!! Don't wear out your welcome because people will give you the cold shoulder!!!
2006-10-31 18:40:36 · answer #2 · answered by bub s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the 2 things that stand out here for me are the gf factor and maybe a bit of overstaying your welcome. but i've found that some of my best buddies aren't always so available or inviting. so don't be mean in retaleation. Sounds like your kinda hurt. so just give it some time and don't push it.
2006-10-31 18:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by benzeeno619 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal for people to kinda drift apart. I think maybe they are just comfortable with you so they don't feel the need to give you all the attention. Don't take that the wrong way, I'm not saying your begging for attention, they are just preoccupied. Sounds like you just need to get yourself a girlfriend too.
2006-10-31 18:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest...tell them how you feel...ask them why they seem to be giving you the cold shoulder....in any relationship (friendship included of course), open communication is important. go ahead, ask them, you may or may not like the answer but the asking will definitely do you good.
2006-10-31 18:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by Arie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ask them whats going on if you have done anything wrong to make them give a cold shoulder, if they dint asnwer you well then just let it go and find other friends
2006-10-31 18:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by destiny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋