How to settle the dispute when the opposite person is unnecessarily adamant?

Answer 1

To the opposite person, it is obviously necessary to be so adamant. Since people don't change people, that really leaves only two options: The use of force, and the use of peace.

The use of force allows only one sane reply, a reply by force. A refusal to respond to force with force is an admission of inequality and a violation of freedom and sovereignty.

The use of peace begins with the admission that you respectfully agree to disagree. Sovereignty, responsibility, and power is considered for each individual, and equality is preserved in that people don't "step on other people's feet." Perspectives are recognized, understood, and unchallenged while responsibilities and sovereignties continue unthreatened and undisturbed.

In a more concrete form, my answer is this: Be prepared to respond to force with no more than sufficient force to neutralize any threat to sovereignty, equality, or responsibility. Accept the opposite person's perspective respectfully, and peacefully, but recognize your and everyone's right to disagree. Look for points of agreement and harmony and build on them. Disengage from disrespectful or threatening dialog and be prepared for the use of force to re-engage in the dispute/conflict by the minimal use of force in defense of the process of disengagement.

Above all never enter into a dispute when it is expected that more harm than good will come of it. The best way to settle a dispute is to never engage in one in the first place. Look for more constructive methods of resolving issues when it is clear that the subject will not likely support your interests or form a meaningful alliance with you.

Answer 2

Whoa - I do not disagree with the person who says to just accept defeat whether you're right or wrong!! I, personally, believe that sacrificing "right" in the name of peace isn't ever a good thing. There is too much wrong in the world to let yet one more wrong "win".

Tell the other person you want to discuss both of your viewpoints calmly. Ask the person to give his reasoning for his side. If there are holes to be punched in his reasoning punch the holes. Tell the person you will be punching holes in his reasoning, ,and he'll have the chance to punch holes in your reasoning when you explain yours.

After everyone has had a chance to punch holes in the other's reasoning (whether or not anyone's reasoning had anything punch-worthy) see where you both stand. If its a case of nobody's budging even after showing reasoning then agree to disagree.

This results in your getting to keep your viewpoint and the other person's getting to keep his, but at least you have both communicated and discussed your sides and reasoning - so all was not lost.

At some later time when you have more ammunition to back up your side of things (if that happens) then bring it up again and see if you make headway the second time around.

Consider that sometimes people who have plenty of back-up and evidence to their side are adamant because they're right, and consider that sometimes both parties can be right even if their viewpoints are different, and consider that the person without back-up or solid reasoning who is very adamant anyway may just be stubborn and unwilling to listen to reasoning.

I know someone who has admitted that even when he sees that someone else is right he still won't give in and admit it. If you're up against that kind of thing there's no point thinking you'll ever get farther than agreeing to disagree. If the person is just being stubborn he'll know that you're right when you end up agreeing to disagree. He just won't have to admit it.

Answer 3

The dispute is only because the other person is adamant. If it is due to some genuine misunderstanding about certain facts and circumstances, it can be easily solved. If he has no intention to solve it, then you have no option but force a third party intervention legally, either through an arbitrator or a court of law.

Answer 4

Fight fire with fire is the worst thing to do!

I would advice you to look for water to extinguish the Fire!! :-)
that is, if the person is adamant whether (s)he is right or wrong let him win. There's a saying : " The wise man does not argue even if (s)he is right!"

Accept the defeat, it is surely a very difficult step but if you do otherwise the dispute will never ever end! and it can even turn out to be much more serious!

So be wise...

Answer 5

In a typical argument, each person tries to prove themselves right and the other person wrong. Of course, we all know what happens in the end — each person only ends up more entrenched in their views, regardless of who seems to deliver the most dominant argument.

An argument cannot be won with resistance. You will only strengthen the other person’s resolve. At best you will both leave in a state of stubbornness, but little communication will have actually occurred.

The way to “win” an argument is to aim for a goal other than being right. The other person will be prepared to defend against someone who is trying to prove themselves right. Trying to prove yourself right and the other person wrong is like making a frontal assault on an entrenched enemy position. You’ll need overwhelming force to win, and your victory will come at great cost, if you can even pull it off. Plus you’ll leave your relationship wounded in the end.So instead of trying to be right, the best way to win an argument is to go for an entirely different goal.
nstead of attacking at that point, you empathize and connect with them and strive to reconnect them with their truest and best self.

Answer 6

Put forth the facts as you see them and allow the opposing party to do this as well. If no conclusion or agreement can be reached, agree to disagree and hopefully remain friends or whatever the relationship may be. We won't all always agree with everyone else. There are times that agreeing to disagree is a favorable outcome to an issue.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Shove words and facts down their throat. If they can't accpet it tough luck. Always make sure you have at least ten things to say about when you find their weakness where they should give you more examples and they only stick to one thing the only thing that they think you know less of. Good enough, yes?

Answer 8

tell them that " you have a point. I think I see what you mean." then reiterate to them what you think they mean and see if you understand them correctly. respect their opinion and do not criticise or mock them. this will throw them off balance and they may not agree with you but will be pleased that you are at least listening to them and trying to understand, even if you do not understand or agree. maybe you will learn something and agree a bit more, maybe not. but they will naturally reciprocate your attitude a little bit and tend to listen to you more too and not be too adamant in their position. TRY IT. It can lead to compromise and concord if not agreement on every point.
remember the 3 simple words" you have a point" it is magic.

Answer 9

let the person know that you are also not interested in settlement and want make the depute still complicated.he will come down

Answer 10

State your position and end the conversation.