I am recently seperated, heading to divorce. Though I am not quite ready to date I am curious to know what women out there think of dating somebody who is separated but not yet divorced.
2006-10-31 18:15:50 · 14 answers · asked by Norm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should wait until your divorce is final. You do not want to date right away this goes for men and women. The marriage went wrong for a reason and you should take some time to reflect on what happen and what you want and need in life. If you jump right back into dating you are going to find that you fall in love with someone again fast due to being lonely and confused from the divorce even if you do not feel like that is the case. And then you will be right back in the same place again.
Think about what you want and stay on your own for awhile and then think about dating. I am not saying for 5 years I am just saying for a little while. We need to know who we are and what we want before we start bringing someone else into our lives.
2006-10-31 18:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by patty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am married to a cheating man, heading toward i dont know what.... but before i was married i dated this guy who was going through a divorce and had 2 kids,and i felt like the rebound girl.but now that ive have hard time after hard time with my own husband,which i have 1 kid with,( who i just found out lied again, AFTER we tore up the divorce papers) i understand that so long as your actually looking for SOME kind of commitment serious or not so much, and not just looking for sex, then youre probably worth giving the time of day. id say it also kind of depends on how long youve been seperated too.
2006-11-01 03:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends upon a number of factors...
How recent was the split?
Are things amicable or a huge mess?
Is there a lot of unfinished emotional business?
Are there children involved?
What's the living arrangement?
Etc.
I might... but would probably wait until the divorced was finalized before beginning to date seriously. It's difficult to begin something new when the door hasn't been completely closed on the past.
2006-11-01 02:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not date a seperated man, cause to me that would be like cheating, even if the papers were filed. Until the divorce was final I would stay away, that is just the way I am.
2006-11-01 13:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I may be 21 young and full of *** as the saying heard many of times but, age is just a number to me and it really just depends on how you mature you are really but, anyways to your question.
If you know that's what you really want in your heart to be seperated and divorced then I would honestly start looking and find a date cause I personally don't see a problem with as long as that man is secure with his answer and knows for sure that is what he is wanting to do.
2006-11-01 02:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't date anyone until they were free to date. That would be when the divorce was final. But there are lots of women that could care less.
But if I were you...I'd give yourself some time.
2006-11-01 04:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by Jaded 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have dated a separated man in the past.
I felt uneasy until he actually was divorced though. One because he was still legally married and two because his ex was around.
2006-11-01 02:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by Tara662 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A smart woman would not date you if she is looking for a solid relationship. If she really liked you, she might make an exception.
2006-11-01 03:46:28 · answer #8 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would forstly like to know the reason behind the separation
2006-11-01 02:18:08 · answer #9 · answered by ntu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself a chance to heal from one relationship before you jump into another one.
2006-11-01 02:20:58 · answer #10 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋