how do i be more courageous and not put myself down?

Question

i have a hard time with being couragous and doing things infront of people. im a girl and i play drums but its really hard for me to play infront of people. even people ive known forever cause i know they can hear me and it sucks trying to learn new things when people are in the house and theres always someone here. i think that they think i suck and i think the same thing. and i also want to model but i wouldnt know how to pose and id be scared to do it infront of someone. i dont even want me boyfriend to try to take pictures of me to help me.. and i really want to do these things its just so hard to get over it.. how do i?

Answer 1

Get some counselling and I am not saying this to be mean. You may be depressed or suffering from a bad relationship or anxiety disorder. Always do what is in your best interests.

Answer 2

what i did was stand in front of a mirrior a lot more... like make faces and just mess around... i got really into writing things in a note book and i started using something called the intention process... it really helps a lot.

"When we are able to firmly hold a picture in our mind of that which we intend to create, and we reject any ideas that would interfere with that image coming to us, we are well on our way to becoming a mighty manifester. We make the very best use of the wondrous tool that we call our imagination. For it is here, within the vast, infinite scope of our mind's eye that we can picture anything. We can envision things that will help us and further us along life's path, or we can envision dramas galore. Both are equally at our beck and call. If, however, we are to put our imagination to its highest and best use, we will need to hold fast to envisioning positive outcomes and trust that they are manifesting for us.


Those of us in the Intenders who have been testing this method for the last several years can assure you that seeing the end result from the beginning - and remembering that our thoughts are the forerunners of our experiences - works. This is how we utilize our imagination to become more proficient at the fine art of manifesting. And the nice thing is that we don't have to go anywhere. From we make an intention, all we have to do is be open to receive. "

Answer 3

Cognitive Behavior Therapy: confront your fears head on and find out just how ridiculous. Quite easy and simple.

(a) Try to imagine the worst thing can happen. Then realise it isn't half as bad as other things like heart attacks or your house burning down.

(b) "You think they think you suck". Pretend that you have to prove that they think you suck. What is your watertight evidence? You will probably find it is easier to proove you will succeed than fail.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Personal fears limit all of us.Don't think your alone in this.As a youth I had similar concerns about playing the guitar.I came to realize that It's O.K. to just be me.Remember this; to thyn own self be true it doesn't matter what others think of you!