i have been talking to my mom for months about her finally letting me out of the house to go hang out with my friends.... b/c it's halloween.... she said eversince day one that i could stay out until 11.... i fianlly get out of practice for marching band @6 and finally get to my friend's house around 6:40..... then @ 8 my mom calls and says i have to go home.... i don't see the reason that she would pull that sort of thing.... i never get out of the house... in fact this is the first time i'v gotten out for @ least 4 months.... wtf?
2006-10-31 18:10:45 · 13 answers · asked by Yemi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Parents can be very difficult at times, but I believe that the majority of parents make and change rules to protect their children. Sit down with mom and talk with her about this in a calm, grownup manner. Don't express attitude or try throwing a fit on her, just talk. Let her know how this situation made you feel and ask her what made her change her mind. Maybe it was a school night and she wanted you home and in bed at the usual time. Maybe she was missing you and just wanted you close to her. Maybe she just had a bad feeling that you were not safe and needed you home to see that you were ok. There could be 100 reasons why she changed her mind. You will never know unless you talk to her and maybe why you are talking come up with a compromise that you both are accepting of and see if she will agree not to change her mind and call you home early again. Tell her you will be responsible and call and check in, whatever it takes to make her feel comfortable while you are out enjoying your friends, and make sure you are going out with friends she knows and approves of.
2006-10-31 18:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bah. I'm a good girl, and I curse like a sailor. Some answerers have a stick lodged.
I know that it's not fun, but your mom is doing what she thinks is best. I agree that 11 is a little late for a school night. You need to talk to her about letting you go out sometimes -- maybe on a weekend. You are in high school, and it is good and healthy for you to have some time with your friends, within limits of course. All of the people I knew that weren't allowed to do anything in high school went crazy when they went off to college -- sleeping around, partying like crazy, etc. And once you are given some space, you need to respect the boundaries or things will juts get worst. Usually, once you establish a good pattern of behavior, parents will be a little more lenient.
2006-11-01 02:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jamir 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents can be really tough hey. The main thing to remember is that deep down what ever they do its actually cos they love you. I know, I know, it doesnt always seem that way but I think maybe your mom is just protective over you cos she loves you. But I dont know the whole situation - so what I can say is that if you're really unhappy with the situation, you shoud try explain rationally to your mom. don't talk to her when you're gonna get all emotional and upset cos she will then think you're being dramatic or hormonal or something and wont take you seriously :) so talk to her calmly, rationally ,and like one adult to another - that way she can't dismiss what you're saying and hopefully will take you seriously . on the plus side - remember you can learn for your parents and one day when you're a parent try remember what you needed as a teenager :)
2006-11-01 02:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow You sound like my daughter. I'm a very easy going mom.
I feel your mom is way to hard on you. For 1 one I think you have a big enough case load as a teen. You should be able to go out and fun with your friends. Gosh its Halloween give the kid a break MOM
2006-11-01 02:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by bub s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to know as you don't reveal your age, and I don't know about your maturity. Mom is concerned about your safety, and if you are a young teenager, you are convinced nothing will happen, and your mom knows better. Why do children have to be so difficult?
2006-11-01 02:26:28 · answer #5 · answered by whatshisface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think that they are concerned about you? don't they have any rights to question you being your parents? do they care about people around? they care about you b'coz you are their property. you might be attracted by your friends who is bad which you may realize later,so spend at least 1hr with them and share your experience .then you may clash your ideas with them b'coz they are more experienced than you and they are the only one who will not cheat you, even your friends may.You migh not be bad but people around may catch your attention.So,better you ask your parents before doing anything.
2006-11-01 03:14:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we, in vain, try to protect our children because we have been through almost everything you are now.We had bad experiences and would like to make you avoid disappointment!But each of us has to learn from our own mistakes!That makes us be such a nuisance!!Forgive us!Forgive the fact that we love you too much!You'll be the same as parents!
2006-11-01 02:21:41 · answer #7 · answered by simonaputinelu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever see one of those bulletin boards with pictures of missing children? That is one of my biggest fears, my child disappearing. Also, that my daughter could get raped or killed. It is important to let your mom know where you are and who your with, and she has to trust who your with. She loves you, and is taking her job as a parent seriously.
2006-11-01 02:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by Tanyaqt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps if you cleaned up your language, your mom wouldn't be so 'difficult'. Do you really expect anyone to believe your 4 month prison stay??? ;(
2006-11-01 02:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do her house her rules...Wait till your 18 then escape, i did, mom and i didnt get along...Now, she the bestest friend one could have...I wasnt allowed to date till i was 18, hopefully that doesnt happen to you...
2006-11-01 02:18:14 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋