2006-10-31 17:52:28 · 25 answers · asked by R I Y A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to each other. Since you’re the one who is aware of the problem then I would recommend that you initiate a discussion with your husband about your sexual concerns. If you’re afraid to, then the problem that you just mentioned is not confined to the bedroom. Sex is communication and more often than not good sexual communication is reflective of good overall communication between partners. If you’re afraid to create conflict, than you will most likely shy away from one another in all areas of your life.
If your husband responds positively to discussing your sexual relationship, then you’re on your way to solving your problems. Not knowing your sexual history, I can’t comment on your experience and knowledge about sexuality. One thing you should know is that very few couples intuitively know how to pleasure each other. To create a mutually satisfying and loving sexual relationship takes awareness and knowledge. The two of you need to spend time reading about sexual techniques. By doing so, you can learn the "what and how" of sexual pleasure. If you go to our Bookstore, you can find a number of excellent books on sexuality.
2006-10-31 18:00:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What turns all men on? A good BJ. Learn how to do it well and he will be putty in your hands. Once that is accomplished, you can teach him what you like. My boyfriend has taught me how wonderful the age old position "69" is. You could try that for starters. Also, if your man is confident, then he would probably appreciate a little of you being a "bad girl". Or a few toys could help. Make having sex fun for both of you and you just can't lose! Good luck.
2006-10-31 18:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by cindiloo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever tryed just talking to him and telling him you want to know what turns him on the most so that you can make him happy? This is a start and never put him down for his performance and allways let him know when he makes you in the mood and makes you feel good. you know those little sounds can send a strong message. and try lots of things and hopefully youll get it rite. the longer you are togather the better it gets.
2006-10-31 17:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by tortuga 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest sitting down and talking with him or invent a game for the two of you. Take index cards and on each one write something you would like to have him do to you that you would enjoy. Ask him to do the same. Do several each and before lovemaking each of you choose a card the other has written. After you run out of cards make more soon you will know what the other enjoys and this can be fun---fun fun!!!
2006-10-31 17:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by craftylady 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How long have you been married? You aren't expected to know about his likes and preferences overnight. But over a period of time, as you gradually explore each other, you will be able to know about his likes and preferences in bed. Moreover aren't husband and wife expected to confide in each other? If you have tried to know from him, as to what turns him on and he has been unresponsive or vague, it means that confidence is lacking in your relationship. Try to concentrate on confidence building first and foremost. The rest will follow automatically.
2006-11-01 04:09:47 · answer #5 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most guys like anything... ok, not quite.
what i do suggest doing is ask him to give you feedback so that you can find out what he likes. read some cosmo or kama sutra to give you some new ideas. learning about guys "erogenous zones" help too. i try to get some new ideas this way every now and then just to liven it up. your husband should help do his part by doing the same for you. making even little, small noises helps too. if you make some, he is likely to make some. make sure you only do this when you really like something or else it won't be effective. also, blatantly tell him, i really like when you do this... and ask him, what do you like...
2006-10-31 17:54:52 · answer #6 · answered by christy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Instead of you trying to know of what turns him on, better have a matter-of-fact mutual and sensible discussion for a positive review of the situation.
2006-10-31 19:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him OPENLY about it as he is the only person who knows what it needs to turn him on. This is a matter strictly between you and your partner.
If he himself doesn't know what, then be creative! Both of you should jointly get some ideas from the Kama Sutra book.
2006-10-31 17:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by Solomon Grundy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
nicely he might inform you something that turns him on, yet some men dont desire to talk approximately it, by using fact, they might desire something which you dont desire or won't do. Then they are all embarressed and wont inform you what's of their small head, or huge head for that count. men get grew to become on by potential of alot of sexual issues, you should be imaginitive. he would be grew to become on by potential of you in case you have found out something new, and it is going the two approaches. He desires to maintain it clean too.
2016-12-28 09:17:02 · answer #9 · answered by everitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him? hes your husband. tell him you feel as if you sex life is not the same and you feel like its missing something and ask him if he has any suggestions? if not then try a variety of things like dressing up sexy for him or doin something you normally wouldnt do. and no guy can say no to oral. and if worse comes to worse maybe snuggle up an watch a **** together.
2006-10-31 17:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by aliciababy224 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋