2006-10-31 17:51:18 · 21 answers · asked by R I Y A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try paying attention to needs. I’m not just referring to sexual needs. Showing that you’re interested in all of who is, not just body, will communicate a very powerful message of caring. It is important to show interest in what your husband does and what thinks and feels. Don’t wait for to initiate conversations. Take the lead. Express your love in tangible ways by both telling and showing her. Make her believe that she is a high priority in your life - not just a sexual object.
Take time to set up the proper mood for lovemaking. Music and wine helps. It is very important not to rush into lovemaking. Remember the mind is a powerful sexual organ. The right words and feelings will give her the message that you care about her. It will also have a very positive affect on your sexual relationship.
2006-10-31 17:58:32 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ideally, sex is all about the coming of both partners and preferably at the same time or close to one another. Unfortunately a lot of men just don't bother about their women's satisfaction. As men normally come earlier they just think that sex ends with their ejaculation.
It appears that your husband is complaining that you are somewhat selfish during sex, caring for your own satisfaction only. Hopefully it isn't true, although you are entitled to your share of satisfaction.
Sex is enjoyable when there is understanding, confidence, love and a sense of sharing between the partners. If those are lacking in your life, try to build up on those first together with your husband. Sexual enjoyment for both will follow automatically.
2006-11-01 11:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming is just one aspect of coitus. Good love making starts much before the partners shed their clothes. The first thing the partners should shed is inhibitions.
Every part of the man's and woman's body is useful in sex. Mind plays a vital role in getting the body prepared.
My style is ...a sexy small talk with my partner. Followed by a good foreplay. In fact, I would, whenever possible get into a shower or bath tub with my partner.
Playing along from there on, until we reach a stage where we are ready to engage each other in a good oral sex. Oral in my opinion is a good foreplay. I stimulate my partner's clitoris by the K-L-S-N routine...Kiss...Lick...Suck....N i b b l e...
We do a lot of dirty talk to pep up ourselves. Or watch ourselves on a huge mirror.
Trying out different positions is important. But you should quickly decide on a few comfortable ones.
After a good sex, after play is as important. I prefer cleaning up my girl again by a good oral. Many a times this may lead to a second coming...why not....
2006-11-01 02:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are very goal oriented. Your husband wants you to feel as great as he does when you have sex. Just explain to him that it is a little more complicated for women, we don't necessarily always orgasm when we have sex (which is really a shame!) However, I get the feeling that you are feeling a lot of pressure to perform, and that just won't make for great sex. Explain the anatomy of a woman to him, and then perhaps he can help you along and will understand much better. Good luck
2006-11-01 02:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by cindiloo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,it aint true......sex is not just cummin.....it's loads more hun......hmmmmmm......say how wud u not give away anything for a sweet caress?A careless soft whisper?I guess its far more better holdin hands than plain cummin in each others genitals.......pardon me for being crass and gross......but,sex.....is love i guess,and it's manifest in many ways,let alone cumming....and wen it's not love,then it's so animallike......ur right in ur heart;it's not true.......i second ur opinion.
2006-11-01 05:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by ♥addy♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what about the intimacy of experiencing each other up close .. the scent of him.. the whispers in the night.. the human contact... the comfort of being together... what is true for you ?
2006-11-01 01:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by cherylanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he feel you are selfish about ur needs?why dont you both sit down and talk about what you both need from each other.not only sexually but in general
2006-11-02 02:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by Swan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no and from a male its all about lots of four play a mixture of love a hole lotta candy do it for the love of each other
2006-11-01 01:57:58 · answer #8 · answered by down_underau 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to explian him
r have sex for pleasure?if yes then expressthis feeling to ur husaband
2006-11-02 13:36:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send me mail Riya, trust me u won't be disappointed
2006-11-01 08:15:52 · answer #10 · answered by hotchocredrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋