My partner told me that we needed a break from each other, our relationship of 7 years got really bad, we have a kid of 2yrs old, I mean i been readin books and talkin a lot wit friends and they tell me that is for the good, i mean i was a really bad man, i verbally abuse of her in the past year...i love her i dont want to lose her...maybe i did already...should i move on or wait it out and change so she can be in love wit me again?
2006-10-31 17:29:06 · 6 answers · asked by Darksied 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A break can be good from my past experience. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years but in that time we had a break, just so that we both knew that what we wanted was the same. I think that if you both want the same thing you will eventually get back together anyway but in the meantime, take time out to weigh up your own feelings instead of wondering what she wants, you also have to work out things for yourself. Wait it out for awhile but if she doesn't look like coming back to you, let her go and at least you would have worked on yourself in that time apart to give a new relationship the best you can.
2006-10-31 17:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by pinkboopy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the thought of losing her make you realize what a good thing you've been wasting all these years or is it just that you don't want to lose someone you can abuse?
If you sincerely regret verbally abusing her and being bad to her, I would suggest seeking a marriage counsellor but for you to go together as a couple if she would still give you the chance.
If you feel you're not that serious about changing then I suggest you let her go, seek professional help on your own.You owe that to her and your child.
Your behavior towards her may have already affected your child, maybe that's why she wants a break. You should take your child into consideration too since how your relationship with your partner goes would affect the child psychologically not only now but even when she's/he's already grown up.
2006-11-01 01:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by ivy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that spend a Little time apart from your spouse is definitely good for both of you its better for everyone involved including your kids. Why would you think that you would ever have the right to verbally abuse your wife. If you plan on keeping your marriage then i would teat your wife the way that you would want to be treated. being apart from one another gives the both of you the chance to figure out what you want. weather it be the decision that your looking for might not be a possibility. By all means work on your marriage first before going on with your life. and if the two of you think that it would be better to end the marriage in the end then start moving forward on building a life for yourself but remember no verbal abuse
2006-11-01 01:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by bonnie w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you love her you will do whatever it takes to win her heart again. If you love and cared for her you wouldn't hurt her physically nor mentally. A break can be good b/c it gives the two of you to reevaluated your relationship. You admit that you are a bad man. Since you are on a break right now you should use the time to brain storm what you can do to make up to your love one. I give your partner credit for sticking with you after 7 yrs. It takes
A break can also be bad news for you. She may realized that all these time she's wasting time on someone whom she thought that loved her. Give her the time and space when she's ready she will talk to you.
2006-11-01 01:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you guys need is marriage counselling. or maybe you should try your best to win her back. If you love her, then you should not give up on her. Tell her that you want to work it out cause you cant picture your life without her and you want a future with her and your kid. Good Luck.
2006-11-01 01:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a good man.
2006-11-01 01:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋