what are the differences in life that someone might find between New York and New Bern (North Carolina)?

Answer 1

New York City? The only difference is traffic. Just kiddin...

Modern anti-urban attitudes are to be found in America in the form of the housing development profession that continues to develop land on a low-density suburban basis, where access to amenities, work and shopping is provided almost exclusively by car rather than on foot. There is usually significant opposition to expanding mass transit, typically on financial grounds.