i m not able to speak boldly?

Question

i m able to speak with my family members with confidence but infront of teachers, boys & anyone else i don't know wat happens to me

Answer 1

Forget boldness. Remember "intention".

with family members the intention is clear.what you speak and how they react.

With strangers there's always the surprise element.That make you anxious and nervous.There is also the factor of shyness.

When you decide to speak with someone, make clear your intention. Be clear with what you intend to happen/speak.Thats basic. Then wait for their reaction/answer.Be clear with their intention.

To illustrate: during a bus journey, I wanted to know where the bus would halt for a break to have my dinner. That was my intention.To know about the time of break and halt. I spoke to driver to know this.I asked him when would the bus stop for dinner. His answer was not I intended.Rather he said " Its, raining, don't you see". I read his intention that he was under some stress. I pressed him for the answer saying "That nothing to do with the rain, pls let me know what time the bus be halted for the break". he went on to say " the bus is already at halt" yeah i knew that because it was waiting for the passengers to board the bus " why dont you finish your dinner now". I replied " I cant finish my dinner, just because I have too.And also Iam not hungry right now. So, whats your problem".

Do you see the picture. I was seeking for an answer.That was my intention.The driver was rather vague in his answer.whatever the reason, he was not clear with his intention. that is, to answer my question in appropriate manner.Finally he relented till I got myanswer.

you see i did nothing to be bold.

So, try speaking more with people, strangers.Interact with them.Try to know them. understand their intentions. speak up. you will soon start to gain confidence to speak, ask and interact with people.

But first, be clear with your intentions.

Answer 2

once i saw the show in which the person who had a stage fear was asked to imagine the people sitting as jackass!it did wonders. u dont have to do this. u just think that u r no less than anyone. be confident. just think 4 a sec b4 answering anything take a deep breath n then shoot! oanother trick is stand in front of a mirror imagining ursekf with a guy and start conversing. or just think what wil u answer if he asks smthn. it worked 4 me.

Answer 3

You just need a wee bit of self confidence. Believe in yourself because if you don't nobody else will. It takes a lot of practise to be able to acquire self confidence, but you can.. You are a unique individual with a unique personality, so don't be shy. express yourself and start doing it now.

Answer 4

Join toast masters and never let an opportunity to speak in public slip by. practice and more practice will help you build your confidence.

Answer 5

People like this are called people pleaser and don't want to hurt other peoples feelings so they hold their tongue's to keep from hurting others. Don't let this stop you from becoming a bigger person . Try stepping up you'll be glad you did.

Answer 6

Me either. I've always wanted to take a Dale Carnegie class. I've been told that helps a lot.

Answer 7

join a public speaking classes it will help you. One of my friends has joined and got lot of benefits.

Im also planning to join.
If you are from mumbai then british counsil offers this course.

Answer 8

first forget that you can not speak boldly. thing that you know that subject more than others.now speak boldly come what may.you wil be allright.best wishes

Answer 9

Fake the confidence until it becomes real.

Answer 10

me too. i can't speak to clients or customers. when i have to sell something to someone, i can never ever reach out .