my husband does not like to talk, our communications are getting lesser and lesser each day, you think this marriage will last? Any good suggestions to improve relationship. We have a daughter (4 years old) if we keep having cold war I am sure it will not be good for her overall development.
2006-10-31 17:17:33 · 19 answers · asked by nbd92 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Re-assess your relationship with your husband why he changed and cooling slowly? Talk to him in very sweet mood and open your communicatuion gap to resolve it , otherwise if this gap will continue, it's not good to your family specially you have blessed with a daughter. Some family problems started from a little gap until it grows to the extend that you can't controlled to explode and realtionship broken. The most affected ones are those innocent children. The most happy marriiage are those couple who are open and will not sleep the night once they can't resolved all problems they faced on the day. So regular communication is must. If you tolerate a night to sleep without conversation with your husband, the gap will becoming bigger if it will take for another night or so to sleep without talking to each other. Initiate how to have a mutual conversation with your husband. Do it before you sleep tonight with him. You can try it when you are making love.
2006-10-31 17:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has your communication with him been like? Do you end up fighting when you speak? If so, make the decision that for 24 hours, no matter what he says or does you are going to say only nice things to him. Tell him things you appreciate that he does for you.
Does your husband provide well for you family? Does he go to work everyday? Tell him you appreciate that. Does he take care of your vehicles and your home? Does he pay the bills? Does he play with your daughter? Does he take out the trash? Commend him for whatever it is that he does.
Your job as a wife is to build your husband up....it's a dog eat dog world out there. They don't need to be hassled to make conversation. First thing when he walks in the door make sure he knows you are glad that he is home.....tell him "I've missed you today....I'm so glad your home". Then leave him alone for a little while.
Cook him his favorite dinner......tell him I made this for you because I know it's your favorite. Tell him he's the best and you are really glad that you are married to him.
He should definitely warm up to you if he has any tenderness at all toward you.
This should not continue to be a one-sided appreciation. He should begin to come around and tell you a few nice things as well.
Give it a try!!! Start your communication with compliments and it should lead to a lot more desire, on his part, to speak to his fabulous wife.
2006-10-31 17:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by dixiemade 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it definately will not be good for her. The best thing to do is be more loving to him. Despite his lack of communication, open yourself to him. Touch his arm when he talks. Hold his hands. Do all the things you did when you fell in love with him. There is a chance that he will also become more loving.
As for communicating, has he always been this way? If he has, you can't expect him to change. If it has progressed simply nudge him in the right direction. Attacking him will not help. Be gentle and kind. Tell him "I love when you do this' Speak loving words. Start more conversations with him.
I hope you reach your desired goals. It's hard for some people to open up and say how they feel, he just may need a push in the right direction. I suggest opting for this first and if it fails, then a sit down 'straight' talk would be the second best option.
2006-10-31 17:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I am in the same shoe as you. I got married only a yr ago, and my husband hardly talks. He just does whatever I asked him to do. He only answer my question. I thought my marriage was in the line too.
I just think men don't like to talk period. If this is bothering you maybe talk to him about it, and see what he have to say....you may want to spend sometime together to rekindle your relationship again. Another reason why he doesn't communicate much could be b/c you see each other to much. spend sometime apart....and see if he misses you. Best wishes to u
2006-10-31 17:55:46 · answer #4 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need some good quality time together, away from your 4yr old.
You need to rediscover who you each are again, and why you fell in love with each other in the first place. Arrange to have a "date" night, either once a week, once a month whatever. Have the kid looked after for the night, and let your hair down.
Once you've invested some quality time in each other, and ultimately the maraige, you'll see a huge improvement in your relationship.
You need to put your marraige first; then you've got a rock solid foundation to build your childs development on.
Hope this helps,
Good luck.
2006-10-31 17:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by harttattoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he needs to talk to you. Many things happen in a month, week and even day. You have allot that you could talk about, and so does he. Let him know in a loving way that you are concerned for your marriage and your family. Ask him if he is feeling okay, after all the problem seems to be something within your husband (be careful, as he may explode). Ask him if he is happy and let him know that he is acting odd. If he doesn't open up... go to the source, his mother. Tell her that all you want is for your family to be together and happy and see if she can either help fix the situation or if she can help you to understand what is happening to your husband.
2006-10-31 17:25:25 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥ Liz ♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well- does he like to sing or express himself in a different way? Paint? Write? Some guys may not like to talk but I guarantee you that they have things on their minds- good things not necessarily bad things.
In my healthy relationships, activity helps with communication. Just doing something together- does not mean watching TV unless you like the same show- work around the kitchen, cleaning, washing your car, taking the kid for a walk, etc... guys who don't talk much prefer activity and once they get moving, they might just start yakking.
Keep your chin up- he might just feel the pressure and responsibility of taking care of and providing for his wife and child. You can help alleviate some of that pressure by easing his mind and you do the talking- positive stuff.
Best of luck to you and your family.
2006-10-31 17:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by Easy A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to find out what he likes and try to talk to him about it. It could be sports, cars, politics, etc... Or better yet, try to do something that he enjoys...sporting events, bars, concerts.etc.etc.. I think you have to do some investigation on why he is talking less and less. For example, is he talking less just to you or other people as well? Is he having some problem at work or a health issue or a financial issue.etc.etc..? It might help to talk with his friends to get some ideas. Hope things work out!
2006-10-31 17:27:48 · answer #8 · answered by oskeewow13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as we all know communication is the key towards a lasting relationship....sort out things...what is the cause of your cold war? who is at fault? if it's you, then try to reach out for him and initiate for a talk...you need this...if love is still there i see no reason why you can't solve this problem. Goodluck!!!
2006-10-31 17:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by chona a 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you know your husband character better than any one of us here. There mus be some common topic that both communicate and I think both of you should work the common topic and improve from there
2006-10-31 22:18:49 · answer #10 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋