I have a great friend that I work with. He just got transferd to another state. We are still finishing a project together and every time we talk on the phone he tells me he loves me. We have been friends for 6 years and his wife just left him for another man.
What do you think it means?
2006-10-31 16:53:52 · 10 answers · asked by c a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
woa.
you need to back off from this guy right now, because he's got some issues, I'm not gonna lie. This would not be healthy for either of you. He is going through some serious emotional trauma if he still loves his wife and is using you as a means to balance what is no longer there. If you are truly his friend, you need to support him and help him with this: as a friend. You need to tell him that it's not okay when he tells you he loves you, because that's not okay. You need to establish with him what role exactly you play in this relationship. If he wants you to replace his wife, you need to back off and tell him that's not okay. He needs some time to heal, and it cannot be with you. He needs to find a guy friend who he is not going to lean on in that way who can truly help him with this trauma.
2006-10-31 17:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by pantherboy5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he tell you he loved you before the wife left? Or after?? I am assuming the latter, in which case, this guy is really hurting. He is looking for someone to help him heal. Being left by a partner for someone else is a major ego killer. I think he is looking for some kind of justification that he hasn't lost any of his manliness and women still find him attractive. I have no idea how you personally feel about this guy from a romantic point of view, but regardless, I think you need to give him some space and remain his friend. If I were you, I would have a heart to heart talk with him. I would let him know that you understand he is suffering right now, but it would be no good for either of you to jump into anything on the rebound. Let him know you are always going to be there for him, but he needs to give himself some time to heal. I say, give him at least a year before you decide to explore anything romantically with him. In the meantime, just be his friend.
2006-10-31 17:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Silver, When you go out on your date, just don't even mention the "luv u 2" and I doubt if he will either. Under the circumstances I would not consider your informal exchange (luv u 2) as a declaration of LOVE. Expressing love for a "friend" is totally different than expressing love for a "boyfriend or lover". This is a very good lesson for you - be careful to not get "caught up in the moment" in relationships with the opposite sex! (Golly that is really good advice.) Don't be nervous or confused - I assure that everything will be okay and you will have a fabulous time on your date. Carry on and make good decisions. Dolores
2016-03-28 03:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could mean that he loves the fact that you have been so kind and supportive of him during such a difficult time for him. Therefore he could be saying that he loves that fact that you have been such a good true friend and that he will always love and respect you for it.
Or it could mean that he now feels free to tell you how he may have been feeling about you for some time, and that is a deep romantic love.
2006-10-31 16:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by Netto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a friend is good to have the only one that has to judge this marriage man is you.it seem like you do know your friend very well that you love for 6 years.you know it take two people to make a relationship work and understand ones pain and feeling.i just saying just be carefully with your relationship. just dont jump into marriage your friend till. you think it over for yourself. just pray about it.
2006-10-31 17:45:42 · answer #5 · answered by cathy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could mean he sincerely loves you or it could mean he is lonely and wants you to fill in that empty spot his wife left for him to sit alone in.......at the end of a relationship most people reach out to whoever is closest to them, that person is you! Be there for him but use your head!!!
2006-10-31 16:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by ~MEEEOW~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He loves the idea of having a gf to soothe away his ruptured ego. The best way to get over a woman is to find another. TAG - you're it.
2006-10-31 16:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means your going to be the rebound girlfriend.
2006-10-31 16:56:16 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mabey he really does love you, how long has he been seperated from his wife, and how long were they maried for?
2006-10-31 17:01:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he trying to see if your that easy... rebound ring a bell in your head?
2006-10-31 16:57:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋