I am 5 weeks 4 days pregnant - i m happy but can't stop thinking of other possibilities like a miscarriage?

Question

HI - I am 5 weeks 4 days pregnant - I am happy but my mind constantly worries about the chances of having a miscarriage. I want to stay positive and feel good about my pregnancy. I am 30 years old -what can i do to stay positive?thanks

Answer 1

I can remember having these feelings with both my pregnancies. I spoke to my doctor about this and he siad unfortunatley if it is going to happen there isn't alot they can do. So just try and relax ( easier said than done i know) try and remain positive take it easy and enjoy this phase in your life because like the old saying goes " it goes to fast ".

Answer 2

Oh honey, I wish there was some easy fix, but there isn't. That's just your worrying mother instinct starting up already. My son is two, and I'm still constantly worrying about the small things that we cannot control.
Your best bet is to try and keep your mind off it. Get a hobby, or a job or something to keep yourself and your mind busy. Talk walks, eat right, drink plenty of milk, take your prenatal vitamins(if you haven't already, begin right away. These are very very important for both you and baby!)

You will have ups and downs throughout your pregnancy, sometimes it's hard to be positive. Just try and keep your chin up and stay positive for your baby. Have a weekly date night with your partner, dress up in something pretty and go out for dinner and a movie. It's amazing what getting yourself together does.
Good luck with this.
Relax, I'm sure things will go smoothly. Congrats on the bebe and good luck :)

Answer 3

This is perfectly normal to worry about this happening, especially if it's happened to you before or to a friend etc...It's okay to be scared. If it's never happened that's okay too. You're not yet feeling the baby kick and you're probably not feeling very pregnant at this point. First of all, don't listen to all the horror stories that you're gonna hear other women tell you about their own pregnancies. Everyone is different. Just because your friend "Mary" lost her baby at 2 months because she danced around an inverted cross in the backyard naked waving argyle socks doesn't mean you will! Stick a pillow under your shirt and look at yourself in the mirror. Start looking at baby clothes and furniture. Think of baby names. At around 4 months start lying on your stomach and you will feel a low flutter. That will be your baby. Unfortunately only you will feel it for now but soon ... others will see him/ her on the outside as well! Then there will not be a doubt that baby is coming! Good luck and congrats!

Answer 4

Get that out of your mind. I never did think about that when i was pregnant with my first and only child. I did however have a miscarriage last year at 5 weeks.


What causes a miscarriage?
Most first-trimester miscarriages are caused by chance chromosomal errors that happen when the embryo is first forming. (Chromosomes are parts of a cell that carry a person's genes.) This is usually a one-time event that does not repeat itself in a woman's next pregnancy.2 Many miscarriages have no known cause.

After the first 12 weeks of pregnancy, or when the fetal heartbeat is seen on ultrasound, miscarriage risk drops significantly.3

Risk factors that may increase chances of a miscarriage include:

Increasing age, especially at age 35 and older.
A history of two or more miscarriages.4
Nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drug (NSAID) use (such as ibuprofen or naproxen) at the time of conception or during early pregnancy.5
Alcohol or drug use during pregnancy.
Cigarette smoking during pregnancy.
Exposure to dangerous chemicals, such as benzene, arsenic, or formaldehyde, before or during pregnancy.
Heavy caffeine use during pregnancy.
Certain gynecological problems, such as uterine fibroids or other abnormalities of the uterus.
Disease or infection during pregnancy, including an autoimmune disease.
Physical trauma.
An immunologic cause—a woman's immune system rejects the pregnancy—which is a factor in a small number of miscarriages.
Recent research suggests that low folic acid levels may also increase the risk of miscarriage.6

It is unusual for a woman to have three or more miscarriages. Repeat miscarriages can be caused by an underlying medical problem. Known causes of repeat miscarriage include polycystic ovary syndrome, a blood-clotting disorder called antiphospholipid antibody syndrome, an abnormal uterus, and a chromosome abnormality in either parent.

What are common symptoms of miscarriage?
Common signs of a miscarriage include:

Vaginal bleeding.
Abdominal, lower back, or pelvic pain.
Tissue that passes from the vagina.
Bleeding that is light or heavy, constant or irregular. It can sometimes be difficult to know whether light bleeding is a sign of miscarriage. When bleeding is accompanied by pain, however, the likelihood of miscarriage is high.
Sometimes miscarriage causes no symptoms for several weeks after the embryo or fetus has died. This is called a missed miscarriage. Over time, pregnancy-related breast tenderness and weight gain diminish. A medical exam is usually needed to see whether you have had a missed miscarriage.

http://www.luhs.org
Good luck and Congrats

Answer 5

Oh yes yes yes yes yes. I was like that (who am i kidding? I'm 17wks and i still have days like that!). What did i do to change? Well, as i said i do still have "down days" - all the lovely people on here have really helped alleviate alot of my fears and they really are a great bunch. I also started buying for baby - little things at first. I bought fairy tale books and i read to baby every night - helps me feel connected. I talk to baby all the time, pat my tummy, think about when baby is born etc. I try to focus on the goodness that is to come - if i'm feeling negative i try to counter with a positive. E.g - i think OMG i really don't want to miscarry, i'm so worried! And then i think My baby is such a fighter a miscarriage isn't possible.Then i seem to rub my stomach for reassurance and feel instantly better! lol. Sounds quirky but its the little things like that help me get through!

I wish you and baby much luck and happiness!

Answer 6

Congratulations!! I gave birth 5 times to healthy babies and miscarried twice. Life is a crap shoot. Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose in all endeavors. Try to focus on the beauty of this time. It is rare and a high point of your experience as a human being and a woman. Odds are VERY HIGH that all will go wonderfully well and when you are as old as me it will be one of your best memories. To try and stay positive focus on all of the babies that have been born in much worse situations than the 21st century in the most developed nation in history with the most amazing medical care. Image yourself next summer with a healthy baby in your arms. Find out the sex of the baby as soon as possible, NAME IT, and start talking to it and calling it by name and telling it about the life you are preparing for it as if it is already here and that the wall of your tummy the only thing between it and it's life with your family. Make the baby as real a person as you can in your mind - NAME IT, IMAGE IT - and the reality will come to pass. Good luck and God bless you all.

Answer 7

I think everyone worries about a miscarriage or things going wrong, just take things day by day. I am 21 weeks and I am still nervous about certain things, this is my first pregnancy and I think it is normal to be nervous. Just try an relax because stress is not good for the baby.

Answer 8

i know how you feel. i worried a lot during my first trimester and was concerned that all that worry would somehow have negative effects on the baby. you just need to remind yourself that most pregnancies are completely normal and most babies are completely healthy. i don't advise shopping as a way of staying positive. how about doing something nice for yourself? doing things that you enjoy will bring you happiness which can't help but put you in a more positive state.

Answer 9

Aww congrats on your pregnancy!

Every new mother/expecting mother is going to worry regardless of what people tell them. I was constantly worried about miscarriage too because I had one prior to my daughter.

Hmm, think happy thoughts. Think about how the baby is going to look, what your feelings will be like when you see him/her for the first time, write down some names you like, look online at like babies r us or target and get an idea of what you would like to decorate the room with... things like that. Read baby magazines. I know its early to be doing all that stuff but it really does help take the mind off of the bad stuff and focuses on the good stuff, plus it gives you an idea of what you would want down the line.

Write in a journal, or keep a log of your thoughts. Write letters to your new baby, it will be neat for him/her to read when s/he gets older.

I'm so happy for you!! I wish you the best pregnancy! =)

Answer 10

I was the same way and when I got too tense about it, I listened to relaxation tapes at night. The independent guide below is from the U.K. but these kinds of tapes are widely available in the U.S. as well. Even with just occasional use, I'd wake up in the morning much less stressed and worried about it.

http://www.calming.org/tapes.htm