pls help me. i am havn a crush on my bro in law. he is the elder bro of my husband. his eldest is in her late teens. he is slim built. i maybe attracted to him physicall(not sure). this crush has been growing with me since i was married to my husband some 12 years ago. i am not sure if he too feels the same way tho i definately look good for my age when compared to his wife. i yearn for more get 2gethers so i tat i can get a chance to see n admire him. i have no intention to break up our families on the other hand i know this crush is going 2 last me long as hubby's siblings r very closely knitted.
2006-10-31 16:29:28 · 22 answers · asked by sagi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think crushes are normal...even if you are married. And I don't think there is necessarily anything wrong with them. As long as it remains just a crush, so what? I don't think you can really stop it from happening. After all, you are married, not dead. The problems will only arise if you decide to act on the crush. And as you have already pointed out, it is obvious you know what you are risking. Not to mention, he may not feel the same. So you totally humiliate yourself, ruin your marriage, and don't end up with the man of your fantasy anyway. I say, stay your distance and enjoy it for what it is...a crush. In the meantime, maybe you need to put a little romance back into the relationship you have with your husband. Buy yourself some naughty lingerie and take him by surprise! Did it ever occur to you, maybe the fascination with your Brother In-Law has to do with the fact that he reminds you so much of your husband? Maybe you just need to add a little more spice at home.
2006-10-31 16:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, a crush lasting 12 years! unbelievable!U should tell yourself firmly that u must STOP this crush ar once! Tell yourself that he is yr brother in law. U could go for counselling as i'm afraid u might break up 2 families if u can't control yr feeling due to some happenings.
2006-11-01 00:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by Renew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have no intention of breaking up your families and yet you still allow yourself to feel this way? if i were you, i wouldn't spend a second more thinking about the brother in law (or at least dont think about him more than you have to) so that this crush doesn't have time to develop into something more.
focus that 'crush' on your husband instead, and work on trying to get those old feelings that you first had for him back.
2006-11-01 00:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over this! You are talking about your brother in law. Since the siblings in that family are tight knitted it would be extremely unwise to act upon your crush. Or you could go ahead and think of no one but yourself and destroy a couple of familys.
2006-11-01 00:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is something good, pursuit it. But if there is any evil or unhealthy thought within you that will bring destruction to yourself as well as others, better pray and get rid of it fast.
When you allow all this unhealthy or evil seed to exist, it will soon sprout out and finally rules over your heart, and you will soon be reigned by your evil thought and carry out all the evil deeds. At the end you destroy yourself and destroy others.
Very dangerous and critical problem you are facing. Maybe seek counselor to overcome your inner temptation. You have to response fast. Otherwise anytime, the evil within you will simply manifest itself and leads you into destruction.
2006-11-02 22:06:59 · answer #5 · answered by AH HA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a crush happens.
You need to work on getting these thoughts out of your mind. He is like the better version of your husband. But, he really isn't.
Get your brain focused on something else.
You can't imagine how much this crush will mess up your life.
2006-11-01 00:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't even go there...you say you don't want to break up this family but if you eventually act on your feelings (and you probably will), you will devastate many people over it. Rather than hoping for more get-togethers, you need to limit your time that you are around your brother-in-law.
2006-11-01 00:35:23 · answer #7 · answered by Patricia S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya , this is rational. How would we possible help this situation other than telling you to stab yourself in the eyes with a pencil so you cant see him anymore? Get a grip and pray no one you know reads this and they find out and destroy the home life.
2006-11-01 00:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by Thumper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your **** together. Sounds to me your lusting after your brother in law. What are you planning on doing? Sleeping with him? Starting a relationship with him? I think he'll have more loyalty to your husband than you do. And why are you comparing yourself to his wife? She's his wife, doesn't matter what YOU look like.
2006-11-01 01:24:05 · answer #9 · answered by Angelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back away from your brother in law slowly he is forbidden and this situation could get very ugly real fast since he is also MARRIED and not only that morally it is plain wrong.
2006-11-01 02:03:35 · answer #10 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋