and he often go to her residence to deliver mineral water which he can send it thro' his staff also but he went personally y'day and she is friendly with my hubby she was alone at home with her little son, my hubby speaks to her husband also over phone but never met him, she was saying come over with ur wife, we will have dinner together etc. looking at this scenario everything seems to be normal but i m feeling insecure, i told this to my hubby he said i m not hiding anything from you but still u r suspecting me..........what should i do? someone please guide me...........
2006-10-31 16:08:45 · 21 answers · asked by virgo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
has your husband done anything in the past for you to suspect him now?
If not you may just be insecure, if so...maybe you should trust your instinct.
Coming from the other side however... I feel much more comfortable initiating friendships (and JUST friendships) with guys...girls make me nervous. Girls and Guys CAN BE JUST FRIENDS. some of my best friends were and are guys! Maybe this girl is the same way...maybe she in reality just wants to enlarge her circle of friends. She probably has no intentions on your husband or She wouldn't invite you and your husband over to have dinner with her and her husband. Unless they're swingers!
My guess is she's simply lonely staying at home with her kid and looking to make some friends. Go to dinner, if you get any weird feelings...like she looks at your husband too long or her hand stays over his a bit longer when he passes the potatoes, then ask your question again. If not, simply have a good time and maybe make a friend yourself.
2006-10-31 16:17:31 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle S 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
When you share good relations with your hubby and you looking at the scenario confirms that everything seems to be normal, then you feeling insecure is your own fault to be reviewed in a proper perspective against your hubby's view "...... but still u r suspecting him..........what should anyone do to get you sensible!
2006-11-01 03:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Virgo, there is nothing called platonic relationships. They all grow into stronger relationship and then physical proximity leads to sexual relationship. But hello there! These answers are all based on very little knowledge that your question and additional info that you have given. Confront him and get to the bottom of it all. There may be something in that lady that attracts him. Is he friendly with all his women clients in the similar way? Going to her house to give mineral water sound very fishy. Invitation to come over for dinner etc with family could easily be to disguise the truth. Good Luck! If it is possible, kick your husband's backside and leave him. Take recourse to the new Domestic Abuse and Violence Act if things get worse.
2006-11-01 00:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by HFXashlee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
every thing seems ok and it looks as if u r over reacting on the issue , dont suspect . and to be sure i think you should go to dinner to her house with family and be normal just be friendly . and after on try to make her your friend , and let her share her feelings to you . i think that will be much better way to stay connected to her and u will know whats cooking . and most importantly if there is anything going on then your husband will be extra care full and will lead you to reality .
2006-11-01 01:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by gunchu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worrying about it won't help anything. That is the only advice I can give you. If it is a client and he wants to maintain friendly relations it is not out of the ordinary if he wants to deliver something himself.
It does not seem as if he is cheating on you, especially since he talks to her husband and she invited both of you for dinner. What reason would she have to invite you if she was having an affair with him.
Regardless, thinking about it too much is only going to hurt your relationship. I would just give your husband the benefit of the doubt for now.
2006-11-01 00:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi Virgo, This sounds very fishy to me. There something not right about this whole thing.If your hubby decides to have dinner with her,if i was you i would go and keep your eyes on both of them, and see what you can learn.You can tell alot with body movment, and eye contract.Just go along with it until you can find out what is really going on.i'm like you i feel very comfortable with this. A Friend.
Clowmy
2006-11-01 00:25:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, does he always get friendly with his female clients? If this is e 1st time, yes u will feel insecure. Well, if yr hasband tell u to go with him to her house for dinner. Do go with him. But if he does not want u to go then u should talk to yr husband. U may wonder whether yr husband has a liking for her, etc. So observe first but don't jump into any conclusions.
2006-11-01 00:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by Renew 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
virgo: The question need be, "what should my husband do ?", not, "what should I do?" ! Since you told your husband how you feel, he is obligated to NOT make you feel insecure. The onus is on him to put to rest any reasons you feel suspicious about this business relationship with his client. At times, we all have had that "gut" feeling that something is wrong, (usually it is) ! But be careful not to misjudge the situation and guess at your husband's motives . Tell your husband to keep things on the "up and up" by keeping this a business relationship and not a social relationship with his client. - Good Luck to You !!!
2006-11-01 00:23:51 · answer #8 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he want to be friends with a client. Is this a normal thing that he does? What does he want? To swing with them? If this is not something that you normally do then don't do it, something is fishy. If it is something normal then spend a big wad of money on a day at the spa and a fantastic dress and wow all of them with our wonderful conversation. Good Luck
2006-11-01 00:13:11 · answer #9 · answered by lily 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think logicaly , he is in what profession I don't know , but if needed he has to visit many people males or females . So don't think of any devil mind , b'cause he loves u very much and people loving their wife will not cheat . Just take care of when he comes from office with some cofee/tea some samossa and sweet words which will relax him . That's all very simple ( even a light kiss will make him more happy and relax when he comes from office)
2006-11-01 00:17:16 · answer #10 · answered by shakthi v 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋