My bf is graduating this winter,but he didn't even apply for a job!!!!
He told me,that he will take 1.5 years off,travelling,doing whatever he likes,enjoying life,and then get into law school the year after next year.
I am concerned that he is so lay back that he wastes the most crucial years in his life! If he wants to go to law school,he should apply for an intern and work for 1 year instead of fooling around!
Am I wrong?
2006-10-31 15:48:41 · 11 answers · asked by anne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, you are.
At the end of the day, it's HIS life - if he wants to take 18 months off to go on a long vacation THAT'S HIS BUSINESS.
You're being the stereotypical nagging female - acting like your his mommy and he's a little boy who's too stupid to make up his own mind about his future.
Your boyfriend is a GROWN MAN and he wants to make up his own mind about his life... if you nag him, best case scenario he'll just tune you out and ignore you - worst case, he'll dump you for a woman who won't nag him about his career...
Beyond that, you are overreacting. You act like he'll never be a lawyer if he doesn't apply for school right now...
Reallity check: If your boyfriend is typical college age, he's about 22 years old now, right?
If he takes of a year and a half, he'll only be 24 or 25, correct?
He's still got plenty of time - there are plenty of successful lawyers who entered school in their 30's and even their 40's
Your man's got his whole life ahead of him - he wants to have a little bit of fun and adventure now, when he's young, before he puts his nose to the grindstone for the next 50 years...
Quit being a wet blanket, and trying to spoil you're boyfriend's last great young man adventure (better yet, instead of whining - JOIN HIM ON HIS WORLD TOUR... you'll have the adventure of a lifetime, instead of being a worrywart who thinks like an old woman)
Lighten up, quit nagging your man about his "future" and let him enjoy life in the here and now!!!!!
2006-10-31 15:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a little over the top with "the most crucial years in his life" Obviously he does not feel he wants to settle down and get on with his education.
Who is going to support him during this time of goofing off? Hopefully, not you. Just keep your nose to the grind stone and let him worry about himself. 1- 1½ years is a little long to goof off.. usually they only take off a few months.
2006-11-01 00:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being a supportive gf just like most men want, I applaud you.The sad part is that it is his life and he can do whatever he wants.If it makes him happy, then you trying to discourage him may work against you.
The decision you have to make is are you willing to stand by his choice? All the nagging in the world wont change his mind if he doesnt want to.Simply, its all up to him;its his life.Sometimes its hard to watch someone you love make a bad decision- then again who are we to say its the wrong one?Good luck to you both!
2006-10-31 23:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep in mind he is just your boyfriend. And yes you can give him your opinion, but be forewarned if you push you may find your self single again. It sounds to me like he has worked hard to a goal that he wanted to achieve and now he wants to take some time off to focus on himself. There is nothing wrong with wanting to see him successful, but you have to realize that he has to want it too.
2006-11-01 00:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by mshellrosie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it really is his life he needs to be able to do what he wants, you being his gf doesnt give you the authority to dictate his life even though it might be out of concern, love whatever he ultimately needs to live with the decisions he's made and im sure he has his reasons so you need to respect that and let him run his life's course.
2006-10-31 23:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by So Happy!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't think it's wrong for you to expect your boyfriends to be successful because you are looking for a long term relationship!
Unfortunately, you can't make him do what are you expect! the only thing I can say to you is , he is not your type to be the one to marry with, let him go and you will find your Mr Right who are ambitions just like you. believe me, if you can't deal with his idea right now, you will never well and things just get ugly.....
2006-11-01 00:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by Shar-Ching 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if that is where and what he wants to do, yes you are wrong, you are only a girlfriend. no offense on that.. but seriously we do not all march to the same beat of the drum,,, Let him live his life the way he wants too, and you live your life the way you want too.. You only get one go around, enjoy it while you are here..
2006-11-01 00:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by sweet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess what? You don't own him, he should do whatever he wants to with HIS life. If you don't like that then find someone who will allow YOU to control their life.
2006-10-31 23:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What he chooses to do is up to him. He might have his own way of getting to where he wants to be. I'm sure he knows what he is doing. If you are expecting him to be successful you also have to expect the same from yourself.
2006-10-31 23:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by pinkboopy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him do whatever he wants. It's his life. U are not his mother.
2006-11-01 00:22:29 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋