My son has no drive or passion for anything, whether it is food, friends, or school, or anything else. My son has been like this for his whole life and i'm worried that he will not change. Despite my lectures to explain the importance of working hard, to survive this world, he jsut doesn't seem to get it or act upon it.. How can i help make him realize that he must do something on his own to survive this world?
2006-10-31 15:42:24 · 15 answers · asked by Zehra 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Make everything in his life something he has to earn and work for. Clothes, Use of the car (or a ride somewhere) and that includes rides from his friends! Any extras that he wants to have. You could even go so far as to tell him he has to earn his own dinner. He's old enough.
2006-10-31 15:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by rtlsimpson 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How about some tough love... Stop doing his laundry, picking up after him and cooking for him... I mean not all the time but making him responsible at east 15 days out of a month... Also, tell him that when he turns 18 and graduates High School that you expect him to (at least) go to a community college or to start paying rent. If he refuses to do anything then kick him out...Change the locks if you have to but if you let him walk over you now then you will be an enabler the rest of your life...
Make him look up the cost of finding a place of his own and the cost of things like utilities, insurance (car) and the like... In short, prepare him to exist in a world with out you! You will be doing a favor to the both of you!
Stand up for yourself now!
2006-10-31 15:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by Dan J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
is his name dave ?
Seriously, I would not stand for his laziness I would make him find a job, get involved in sports, otherwise he will be expecting to live off of your for the rest of his life. You should find out the reasons why he is so lazy. He will expect you to support him and that is just not acceptable in today's standards. People have a hard enough time making ends meet without having to deal with someone as lazy as your son. If he is still not willing to become a working member of society I would tell him he needs to find alternative living arrangements.
2006-10-31 15:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by ne_patriots2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him get a job & start paying his way or make him move out.I know it's harsh but I kicked mine out & now their working have their own apartments it was a rude awaking but it opened their eyes it was better then being homeless they lived with friends for about a month didn't like it & they straighten their act up but quick.Good Luck
2006-10-31 15:50:29 · answer #4 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll grow out of it. also is he overwieght ?cause I am and that was my reason for being lazy. I just didnt feel like going out cause of how I looked. bottom line I am over it for the most part , even though I want to loose the wieght , it doesnt bother me.
2006-10-31 18:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by ajssuperman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs motivation for something. This should have started when he was young but even now you can change things. Don't do everything for him. If he wants A he must do B.
2006-10-31 17:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by BigBuggie5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe getting involved in to church activities. Do things with him. Have you asked him what he likes? Church activities are the best though and so much fun. Especially if you have a church home that has a teen ministry. God Bless
2006-10-31 16:04:37 · answer #7 · answered by Selah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should stop caring for him to much, and start letting him do hes own things. Maybe it's depression, you should go to the doctor and explain whats happening.
2006-10-31 18:14:01 · answer #8 · answered by Questions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him get a job. Maybe rewarding himfor things he does do. Not much just let him know that you noticed what he did and tha he did a good job.
Good Luck!
2006-10-31 21:11:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can encourage him to get a job or volunteer, talk to him, take him to church, tell him to do chores around the house, It should of been encouarage to do chores starting at age 4 or 5 and getting him to help him around the house since then. but good luck. go to www.duggarfamily.com
2006-10-31 15:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by Joey L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋