Well like I was saying about my parents getting divorced. My mom and dad boh remarried some other idiots. I have a stepdad who loves me more then my dad does. How am I supposed to feel about that?
2006-10-31 15:15:39 · 11 answers · asked by HikariTaiyou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're a very lucky girl to have a step dad who loves you dearly.
Love him in return, as best you can.
2006-10-31 17:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by Johnna L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grief is a funny thing. It's caused by a sense of loss (can be any kind). Your family as you knew it broke up and that hurts. Maybe you have felt many things, hurt, anger, abandonment etc. My guess is that all your parents do love you including your dad. People have different ways of showing things sometimes...and sometimes its not the way we need or would like. Have you talked with your dad about needing more time or attention from him? He may not realize that you do. Maybe you can open up the lines of communication. Things will never be the same as they once were but they can be as good or better.You dont have to feel awkward if you find that you love the step parents as well...it's ok. In your lifetime you will love many people. Hearts can hold lots of love. If you need to, and you feel as if you need extra help working out your feelings, I hope you have someone (minister, teacher, counselor) that you feel you can talk to about this. Sometimes it helps. We are all here for you too but it helps to have someone to talk to face to face when you are really hurting about something. Be blessed!
2006-10-31 16:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by Allie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I can relate to your problem since I went through the same thing myself a very long time ago.
See, I never knew my biological father so when I was 2yrs old, My mother married my stepdad but even now...I think of him as my daddy because he is the only daddy that I have ever known and I have been so blessed to have had such a wonderful daddy in my life.
However as time went on, I became closer to my daddy than I could ever be with my mother.
My daddy was there for me the whole time that I was growing up...where as my mother just seem to forget that I even existed most of the time.
Anyway, as the years went on, my mother hated the fact that I was much closer to my daddy than I ever was to her...so after 18 years of marriage and knowing how close I was to my daddy...my mother filed for a divorce to try to break-up the closeness that I had with my daddy.
Anyway, my mother's idea didnt work and even after the divorce...i still stayed closer to my daddy than I ever was with my mother.
So you see, my daddy loved me more than my own mother!!
I'm not telling you how to feel...but please feel blessed that you have such a nice stepdad who loves you more than your dad.
God Bless my daddy now that he resides in Heaven...I love you Daddy!!
I hope this helps you in some way.
2006-10-31 16:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by angelbeliever114 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love each one of them for what positive and good they bring in to your life. Your stepdad may end up playing a very important part in your life. Just love and accept him for who he is. Be good to yourself. :)
2006-10-31 15:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by Ginger Sling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch!!!!
Grieve your little heart out so you can get to the acceptance part of this dilema. There is no such thing as grieving too much or too long.
Cry, get angry, and then cry somemore. It will get different.
2006-10-31 15:19:55 · answer #5 · answered by annie_bananie066 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really means it that is great, but you may need to watch him for a awhile. He might one of those feely deely men.
2006-10-31 15:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder how THEY feel about you referring to them as idiots.
The fact that your Step Dad loves you is wonderful.... why is that a problem?
2006-10-31 15:17:59 · answer #7 · answered by I am Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't reject love - embrace it!! I'm sure your real dad is just going through a phase - don't worry - he'll step up sooner or later :).............or maybe you aren't seeing the love he's giving you?
2006-10-31 15:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by cmefly1999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with being loved..and if someone other than your real father loves u more..hey that is great the more the merrier!
2006-10-31 15:17:34 · answer #9 · answered by sharon c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel however you want to. Do you really think that there is a right way or wrong way to feel? Geez!
2006-10-31 15:25:10 · answer #10 · answered by Senor Pig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋