What is wrong with people?

Question

why do people ***** and complain to you about their lives and u comfort them, but when ever you ***** and complain about your life they tell you to stop bitching and complaining?

Answer 1

I don't have that experience, you must have the wrong kind of friends, selfish self-centered people?

Answer 2

"Misery loves company." Is an old saying, a lot of people that are miserable like to share that misery with other people. They get into the "I feel worse than you do game." These people don't have time to listen to your problems they are too self-centered and care only about their own problems, so don’t listen to yours.

I have a chronic disease, check my profile via my Avatar, and it took me a long time to learn that most people didn't want to know about all my problems, and that I was a big downer with my family because all I seemed to talk about was "I'm more miserable than you are." I don't do that anymore. However, through this board I have found people that I can tell; people asking advice and contacting me, going beyond the simple question. I can share with them stories about great pain, depression and my eternal sleeping problems. When we talk (email) then we can share advice and talk about our problems with someone who can handle it and can understand just what I am going through.

These are the people that you need to find and talk with. As for the others change the subject. Say, "I'm so sorry." and tune them out. Or say, "Wow, that sounds real bad, but let's talk about something nice. That way I can lift you mood for you." Or say, "In the contest for the most miserable; you win." If they don't want to listen to your problems then don't listen to theirs, and make it clear that you won't. If they try and call you on it then respond with, “The more you talk about your problems, the more you are bringing us both down and that doesn’t do anyone any good.”

One of my favorite sayings is, "Look for the good things in life, because the bad ones will find you no matter what you do." Yes, I am often a pessimist, but I like to believe that most problems have a solution. I work on the problems I can solve and I live with those that I can't solve. I am the happiest clinically depressed person you will ever meet.

Answer 3

Its just one of those things, most people want to have you listen to them, but they don't want to be bothered. That is why a listener is so valued in any society. There are few compared to those who don't. In the long run, you will be the better of emotionally, physically and most likely economically. Keep listening and learn to leave your troubles within yourself, and you will fly like an eagle!.

Answer 4

Because those people are selfish... they are what you call "dumpers" They leave you feeling drained after dropping all their problems on you they feel better but leave you feeling like s***. Then when u try to talk to them to get something off your chest they dont wanna hear it... cause they couldn't give two s***s... stay away from those assholes... i know a few of them too, and try to stay away!!

~CHEERS!!~

Answer 5

Yah, I know what you mean. Sometimes it's in the way you word your questions. Sometimes it depends on the time of day you ask.

Answer 6

lmao I wonder why too. It's pretty sad that we have to hear all their bullsh-- but don't want to even hear about others. It's because they are self centered

Answer 7

hey stop bitching and complaining
j/k

Answer 8

yeah... i used to have this problem, then I guess not everyone is as good as me to have the patience to listen. hmm...

Anyway, now i use my blog to complain then. haha :P

Answer 9

people are just like that!! Its bad....I listen to people's crappin drama all the time but everything something comes up with me they tell me I am blowing it way out of the water, making a mountain out of mole hill,,,,, dumb dumb dumb i think

Answer 10

People have no common sense