2006-10-31 15:03:36 · 18 answers · asked by Danielle L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you sure you aren't married to my husband too? Honey, I had the same problem for many years. And I asked repeatedly for a straight answer and all I got was that men are visually stimulated creatures. It's in their chemistry. I refused to accept that and I beat my husband at his own game. Now when I see a pretty women, I point her out for him to look at and then critique the hair extensions, the drawn in eyebrows, make comments on how her boob job is going to be sagging down to her knees in ten years, or how expensive all that plastic surgery must have cost her sugar daddy, etc. It took the fun right out of it for him. He started to look at other women less and less and focused more attention on me. Now it's a rare occassion for him to gawk at a pretty face. And if he does, I simply say "go get her grandpa, I could use a good chuckle when she shoots ya down".
2006-10-31 15:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are fickle creatures. They are very visual. They like to have their cake and eat it too. Doesn't mean they'll cheat on you, but I'm sure many thought they wouldn't, then saw "her", the one who they had to have. Just depends mainly on the individual man, if he is loyal by nature, if he was brought up to respect women or not. To me, this is a flaw in some men and some act on it and some don't. Not all men have to sample everyone they see. Afterall, except for the different packaging, aren't we all the same "inside"? Just like a man, seen one, seen em all, some may be longer or thicker but they all do the same thing. It is frustrating though to be with a man who loves you and who you love and he is so distracted looking at every woman who can walk. You either ignore it, fight about it, or he tries to change it cause it hurts you. Not many will attempt that though. It will always be this way, no one can change it. Start doing it yourself, make sure you don't miss a man anywhere, see if he likes it.
2006-10-31 15:18:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a common problem. I know men aren't blind but they don't have to advertise their rubber necks and make such a production out of it. My husband actually has been caught staring, taking pictures, etc. if really freaks me out. A glance is one thing but to be so blatant about it is weird. Are you taking notes hubby? A glance is a glance but to stare at another woman alone or with your wife present is going way beyond the boundaries. It's rude!
Learn to appreciate what you have in your own home, is my advice.
2006-11-01 09:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Part of it is yes us MEN are visually stimulated, we get turned on mostly by what we see, where as women are turned on by events.
I used to do that, even though I'm happily married to my wife of 10 years, I would look at other women, and my wife hated it, because as another woman would walk by I'd stare at her, like her breasts or butt.
But I have changed with that. I believe that's adultery. Because even though I'm not physically doing anything sexual with her, I commited adultery in my mind by lusting after her.
Thankfully I've changed for the better. Now if a beautiful woman walks or jogs by, and I notice her, I will look away. I've had people think I'm gay because of it, but I tell them, I'm married to 1 woman and I shouldn't look at other women like that.
2006-10-31 15:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You know it's a question that I have pondered too...but I guess my husband stated it best ( in a very manly way). "Yes hon I know she is gorgeous and I have two eyes in my head...but I don't do take out...I stay at home and have dinner." Then he proceeds to wiggle his eyes at me and I can't help but giggle. He is just a guy and they can sometimes be a bit to obvious, but I don't have any worries I know I can trust my husband and his eyes may look but his hands don't wander. Good luck to you!
2006-10-31 15:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by mshellrosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simply human nature, I don't believe it affects their love for their woman. I love and adore my boyfriend, but I still have a good perve at hot looking men when they walk past, it's only natural.
2006-10-31 15:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by Aussie Chick 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why is is some women do the same thing? You are blaming men for being human. If you're going to put the blame for men being human someplace that would have to be placed on God, since according to the bible God created humanity
2006-10-31 15:35:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, some men do that and its embarrasing for who he is with, but know that the other one sees him as a total jerk. they make *** es of themselves.
2006-10-31 19:39:44 · answer #8 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK I'm bad. I look . Every guy I know looks.
I bet you get looked at too. So why make it such a big deal out of it? Monogamy isn't blindness.
2006-10-31 15:20:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because they are stupid and dont realize what being a Real Man is..
2006-10-31 15:15:18 · answer #10 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋