OK my sons father is the best dad even tho we're at a young age ok the thing i didnt tell u is tht hes 21 n hes names steve not thomas. hes the best guy ever hes been with me for about a year now on and off n are son is the most cutes thing ever! its just at tiems when he dont get his way steve flips out he hits me n then when i cry he says he sry n he wont do it again but i know he will theres just no gettin away from him! hes a really sweet guy just has an angry side to him tht i hate, he take cares of me n his son n was there when no one els was! plez no one tell me im stupid or tell me tht i mad a bad chose just help me :'( plez i need som1 to tlk to!
2006-10-31 14:54:25 · 20 answers · asked by No~bodys~angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
GET OUT NOW! What you are going through is not going to end no matter how many times he apologizes. So what if he's a good father, he's committing a crime every time he sleeps with you. Just the fact that he messed with a 13yo girl & got you pg shows what kind of man he is. It's like you are a kid & he's an adult so in his little mind he probably feels he has the right to punish you. You may not see this now, but you will in years to come.
Do you have any family you can turn to?
2006-10-31 15:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I will be glad to help you. Number one he is an adult and you are a minor. I know that it is difficult to do so, but you really need to get out of that relationship. Men that are abusive will continue to abuse and they go through what is called the "honeymoon" stage, they give you the apologies and slap on the sweet salve and the :"oh honey I am so sorry I won't do it again" and so on and they are going to continue to do it.
I know that it is difficult to leave, but you have a new life to think about not just yours. You are not stupid. Believe me, you are not.
It is a very tough situation, my suggestion to you is to leave, because the situation is only going to get worse. He may plea and cry for you to come back, but don't do it, trust me, you will be making the worst mistake. Leaving will not be easy, but I promise you this, once you do, y ou will feel as if a thousand pounds were taken off of you.
He is not the best guy for you, there are many others out there. You are still very young. You now have a baby , imagine the impact that this relationship is having on your child.
Go! Don't look back! JUst go!!
There are hotlines you can call and get help as well.
He is abusive and abusive men are dangerous
You need to be strong and tell yourself that you deserve better. Please do it!
Here is a number that can help you as well. 1-800-799-7233 This number can lead you to resources that will help you.
2006-10-31 15:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are out of your mind.
Your 14, you've already HAD a CHILD, someone you have to care for and devote the rest of your life for.
You've had it with a guy at that young of a age and you guys have been on and off and you still did it.
Did you think about your future? What about your school?
and your childs future?
and he is abusive too you?
and on top of that your under 18 you are not even an adult yet, you've broken the law. You are a minor!
I would have to say you are so young that you need to escape and considering that he hits you, i'd walk out that door right this very moment.
I would suggest going to see a someone, maybe to help you or protect you.
I wish you the very best of luck.
2006-10-31 15:03:31 · answer #3 · answered by dreamscrushed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you are 14 and he is 21, then he should be in JAIL! That is statutory rape my dear one. A crime! Why is a grown man having sex with a child? That in itself should tell you something....women his own age won't put up with his crap. And Honey, where is your mother in all of this. My advice to you is "GET OUT>>>FAST" No matter what it takes, even if it means going to a womens shelter. The situation is not EVER going to get better...only worst. Later on he will start hitting your child, that is a fact. He could really hurt or kill you. That is not Love sweety. If you want to know what real true love is read in the Bible 1st Corinthians chapter 13 and see how your boyfriend measures up. Not very well I'm afraid. Honey, Jesus loves you, and He will see you through this mess, God will never leave or forsake you. You must have faith and trust in God to see you through. First thing to do is take you baby, and get away from this man. There are places that will help you get away, look in your phone book. We all make mistakes, but they should not cost you your life, and that is what it is going to cost you if you don't get out NOW! Do Not Blame Yourself, you can't live with the guilt...just do what ever you need to do to leave. I will say it again>>>>THAT IS NOT LOVE>>>AND HE WILL DO IT AGAIN> don't you believe him for one second when he says it will never happen again..it will. LEAVE>>>LEAVE>>>LEAVE>>>NOW.
2006-10-31 15:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by dineyb68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell are you doin' with a 21 year old. Date someone who's your on age and that if he thinks about hitting you, you'll at least have half the chance to kick his azz. And where are your parents? Just get away from him and go somewhere safe. A REAL MAN doesn't hit girls or women and this fella isn't a man at all. There's plenty of help out there but you've got to get away from him first. GET AWAY HE'S A PUNK.
2006-11-02 06:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by Carolinablues 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the heck are you doing at age 14 and with a 21 year old guy! A now a baby to boot!!! Please get out of there now before he ends up killing you. Any man that hits a woman is NOT a good man to say the least. He needs to be in jail. The state that I live in, if a person is his age and the other is your age the older one will go to jail for rape, even if you agreed to have sex with him, it is called rape here. Sorry but you need to get out of there now while you can and with you baby!!
2006-10-31 15:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are your parents? Just so you know a 21 year old and 14 year old having sex is statutory rape. When you're 21 and you think about dating a 14 year old you will realize how sick this really is. Please get some help. Go to a women's shelter if you don't have supportive parents. And remember that if he's using your son as leverage he is even worse!!! Think about your son and know that he wouldn't want his mom to be hurting.
2006-10-31 15:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guy that abuses (irregardless he's angry , drunk or sober), is not a great guy... Real man don't abuse. My advice is to leave him.. or sent him to counselling even if it's difficult to..
One of my ex-classmate is a girlfriend abuser, because he had seen his father abused his mum.. He hated his dad but yet follows his behaviour...
do you want your children to grow up and become abuser themselves?? or when they grow up, just to realised the father is an abuser and hate him for life?? if he can hit you, one day he will hit your children too..it will be detrimental to the kids both physically and mentally. and it will be too late when someones get seriously hurt ... you are still young, so do think your of future and the people around you especially your kids...things need to be change for the better!!!
good luck...
2006-10-31 15:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by cheesecake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pls get help, you want to talk,
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Aware Center
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2006-10-31 16:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by Rootbeer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO HIT YOU EVER!!! AND IT WILL CONTINUE.......YOU MUST LEAVE HIM IMMEDIATELY AND NEVER GO BACK.........HE IS A COWARD!! ONLY A COWARD WOULD HIT A GIRL...WOULD HE HIT SOMEONE TWICE AS BIG AS HIM?? I DON"T THINK SO!! I HAVE BEEN IN YOUR SHOES AND BELIEVE ME LIFE IS TOO SHORT AND HE MAY MAKER IT SHORTER,,DO YOU WANT YOUR BABY TO GROW UP AND BE THE SAME WAY???YOU ARE WAY TOO YOUNG TO BE A PARENT ,YOU NEED HELP..CALL YOUR LOCAL POLICE AND THEY WILL FIND YOU A SAFE PLACE TO STAY WITH YOUR BABY.........YOUR BOYFRIEND IS GOING TO END UP KILLING YOU IF YOU STAY..HE IS NOT A SWEET GUY!!! GET BACK TO SCHOOL AND MOVE ON, THERE IS ALOT OF HELP OUT THERE FOR YOU, IF YOU STAY YOUR JUST ASKING FOR IT AGAIN. I WISH YOU LOTS OF LUCK AND YOUR BABY NEEDS A SAFE PLACE, HE MAY HIT THE BABY ONE DAY AND KILL HIM..........GET OUT OF THERE!
2006-11-04 08:29:14 · answer #10 · answered by yzllih 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋