i am married and here is the problem i want to kiss the girl i work with. i know its wrong and i am a **** but we hugged a few times and it feels good should i go for it be happy with one kiss and never do it again or am i a big piece of ****. oh just to let you know i have not slept with my wife for a year i quess the marriage is over and we only stay together because of our son and we sleep in diffrent rooms now . the reason for us not sleeping together is many one being i got sick and took a long time to recover after that we just lost intrest in each other sexually. but now that i fell ready for sex again it is not with her and my mind wanders to diffrent women my god have i got problems.
2006-10-31 14:46:03 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hey man, if a dog dont get petted at home.hes gonna roam the neihborhood
2006-10-31 14:48:36 · answer #1 · answered by jamie w 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do you want your son growing up thinking a healthy marriage is not sleeping in the same room? Passing eachother in the hall ways is ok? If you can't get back on track with your wife you are not doing your son any favors by showing him what a marriage is NOT. Your son is learning about relationships through you and your wife, if you love her make an attempt to seduce her and see what happens if all else fails give it up and hopefully you both will move on to heathier marriages so your son can see a good example of how two happily married people should treat eachother. As for the other woman? NEVER NEVER get involved with someone at work especially if you are married. She feels good because you are not satisfied at home. Take your wife on a romantic weekend with out your son and see if there is any spark. Go shopping and to a ball game see how you fit into eachothers world. Marriage is give and take and both partners have to make an effort toward it and NO ONE deserves less than this.
2006-10-31 23:18:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lori 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your wife first. If you were ill and she was with you through it, and now there is no more intimacy between you - you owe it to her to be honest. Finish this first. Perhaps after you speak with your wife, whatever has been interfering with your relationship could be worked out. Your son deserves you to try it with your wife as well. If you don't talk with her - how will you take steps to heal your relationship. Do not continue with the work relationship - it is wrong and based on the fact that you have not pursued reconciling with your wife first. If all fails, and there is simply no more between you and your wife - it is only right to move on - once you two are resolved. Your son is very important here - he needs to be on both your minds in all your decisions. Seek professional help - you sound ready to deal with whatever direction you take.
2006-10-31 22:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by soulsearching 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention how long you have been married or if you still love your wife. You both made a vow and now you have a child. You should both make the attempt to make it work. If there isn't love left between you...stop pretending and move on. You aren't helping your child by staying together...you are just living a lie. You all deserve to be happy......
2006-10-31 22:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by Big Sister 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude get a clue! why is it that cheating is the answer for a bad relationship??? You're not helping the situation. If you're not happy in your marriage get out of it. But cheating just makes it alot tougher on EVERYONE. Including your son you are trying to protect by staying with your wife in the first place.
2006-10-31 22:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by Derinda P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, you are in serious problem. you need to ponder things carefully and make up your mind once and for all on your wife. know that she is your wife and she deserves the complete you; both physically and spiritually.
sometimes we cannot help it but fantasize about other women and the truth is we just can't help it (although we know it is wrong). so if you can't stop fantasizing, at least keep yourself away from adultery.
sleeping apart from each other doesn't mean that you can start fooling around. speak to your wife and re-ignite that fire in the both of you.. good luck!
2006-10-31 22:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by caterpillar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suppose that durring the time you said you were real sick..your wife was taking care of you and the baby..have you not thought about the fact that she does not feel anything more than a care giver..where are her hugs...that do lead to kisses..kisses ..can lead to ..anywhere..or ..is she to busy with the home ..and the son to be feeling like you really care..after all ..your hugging and kissing girls at work..if they do not know you are married..shame on you..if they do..shame on them and you..yes ...you say you have lost interest...so has she...is marriage to your wife..mother of your son..important enought for you to put away your ..your..what...ever..and try to re-connect to your wife and your family....she needs you probably more than you know or care to find out..marrriage is worth working at ..good luck..and God Bless you and your little family..you can call it quits..or BE A WINNER
2006-10-31 23:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by clcschiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you go out kissing other women (which i understand under your given situation), it's about time that you and your wife talk openly about your situation. she may be feeling the same way as you're feeling and is just afraid to bring it up. it's better to be open about eachother's feelings than to be hiding your miseries. and if you're staying together for your son, it's doing him more worse than good because although he is young, he will feel the love that is lacking in your family.
2006-10-31 23:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by sheilanmanny12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a responsibility to your son to do everything you can to make the marriage work before you end it.
Both of you need to go to counseling and if she won't go then you go.
Keep your hands and lips to yourself....you're married whether you sleep with your wife or not.
2006-10-31 22:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you didn't marry your wife for the sex you married her because you loved her i hope, so don't give up yet try to work thing out before you do something stupid.
2006-11-01 02:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by God R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do have a problem!!! go and talk with your wife! tell her you are ready for sex again. but make sure you two start getting romantic again. hang out together. go for dates. damn, don't be another couple ending up in divorce!!!!!
2006-10-31 22:50:38 · answer #11 · answered by wat_more_can_i_say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋