I am wondering about marriage..i am only 19 and i am thinking about marriage soon with my boyfriend. i know he is the one for me but here is the dilemma: i live hours away from where he is. we are going to neighbor colleges right now but i have to transfer schools next year. my mom and dad will allow me to live with my boyfriend only if we get married..and that is the only way to go to his new college (he is transferring too) well anyways he is joining the army and he will prolly be sent overseas as soon as he graduates b/c he is in the rotc program in college..what my concern is is that i wont be able to be with him.and the best way to stay with him is throught marriage..he proposed to me..recently..and i accepted..not because of the whole college thing but b/c i really want to marry him..but what should i do? please have nice comments..oh! my boyfriend is 20..btw..lol
2006-10-31 14:31:09 · 10 answers · asked by sharon c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i know exactly how you feel. i was 18 when i got pregnant and we started living together. we got married 5 years later and we are still together now after 14 years and still very happy. but it couldn've been different and we both know it. there was a time that he was offered a job as a seaman where he'd have to be away for 10 months and have a 2 month vacation and he almost accepted it but eventually changed his mind. when we look back upon it, we both know that if he had gone ahead with that job, we wouldn't have the beautiful relationship we have right now because marriage takes a lot of blood, sweat and tears for it to work. it takes patience, understanding, trust, respect and yes, money, for it to be successful. if he's going overseas, it may make it harder for you to make things work because you're young, you're studying, you're not financially stable, and you're apart. love can only take a certain distance. so think about it. talk about it. talk to your and his parents about it. make the decision not just with your heart but with an open mind.
2006-10-31 14:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by sheilanmanny12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are both too young to get married at this time in your life.
I think college is a time to have new experiences, acquire new friends, and just learn who you are. Believe it or not by the time you graduate you're both going to have changed considerably.
My suggestion is to go on an be engaged but not get married for at least 2 years.
Marriage is serious business and getting married at 19 with hopefully 70 more years in your life is a major decision.
2006-10-31 22:39:18 · answer #2 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young. I know you feel so GROWN right now but you still have a lot of growing to do mentally and emotionally. I am nowhere NEAR the same person today than I was at 19. When I look back I can't even recognize that girl. If he is truly the one you are meant to be with as you say he is he will still be there waiting when you are older. Not saying you have to break up just take it slower. You've barely just begun to live.
God bless you and help you to make the right decision!
2006-10-31 22:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your decision to make not anyone else. I know it probably feels right now but you have to think about it, consider the pros and cons. Yes you're young but you must know what you want for yourself. Ask yourself and let the answer come to you. Don't let anyone even your BF tell you what to do for you. Be good!
2006-10-31 22:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus!! i married at the age of 25 and still thinks that it's too early! wait for a few years and you're thinking will change. it's better than stuck in the cell of marriage and taking lots of efforts to change. pls wait for a few more years.
2006-10-31 22:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by Cool Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would wait for a while to see how life treats you. i got married when i was 18 and my husband was shipped over sea and believe me that was not nice
2006-10-31 22:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by jumiboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just this time.....think of yourself...and think of how much better both of you will feel when you finish your degree and are free.....................to marry without college and studying dragging you down.
I think you both should be selfish and finish school first.
2006-10-31 22:44:02 · answer #7 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't marry him if I were you. You guys are too young. But if this is what you wanna do, go for it. You have my blessings.
2006-10-31 22:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by Tuesday 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19 is pretty young to say forever. try to picture what you truley want in your future, without thinking about him. then imagine if he were there, does he fit the picture in your mind. remember its supposed to be forever!
2006-10-31 22:39:03 · answer #9 · answered by whatup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-31 22:32:49 · answer #10 · answered by Raina B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋