Is it me, or are men trying to "weaken" women?

Question

Lately it has seemed as though men have been trying to "weaken" women. I am saying this because of 3 experiences I have had the past few weeks.
1 A guy on myspace was making dirty remarks to some pictures of my very pretty friend, so i posted that she should delete him, which she did. He was not happy about this so he wrote me comment saying I am jealous of my pretty friend and began making rude remarks about my pictures. I never said anything mean to him, only told my friend that she should delete him, so why did he attack me?
2 I was walking and it was snowing and very cold outside when to guys walked by me in tank tops I said "You guys are crazy its freezing" one guy replied, "ya well you dont look good either". Agian why so mean?
3 I over heard a convo of a guy and girl, guy says "girls make stupid faces in pictures when they are insecure". Why does he think that
Ok those are my experiences. So why does it seem like guys are being so mean and Judgmental about the way women look

And by the way, I am a pretty normal girl. Im no super model but i get enough hoots and hollers to let myself know that i am ok. So these comments have not been said to me because i really am an extremly ugly person, and even if i was i wouldnt deserve rude comments like that.

Answer 1

These males are not "men" in the true sense of the word. True manhood would never stoop so low. In your first case, he obviously had a guilty conscience (as well he should) and lashed out at you.

In the second case, they had good reason to feel crazy, but they were probably trying to prove their "manhood" (of the caveman variety--not the real thing). You showed you were not falling for such shenanigans, and it was a slap to their ego. (Although I'm sure you did not intend it as such.) That was the best response they could think of on the spot.

The third case is a little different, because it was not presented as an attack, but as a fact this young man apparently believes. Maybe an insecure girl told him that, or maybe he has dreams of becoming a shrink, or maybe he was trying to come up with a quick remark to what the girl had said. Maybe he was trying to pick a fight. At any rate, he should have left it unsaid.

Don't give up on the male gender! There are true men out there who open doors for you and help you with your coat, and pull the chair out for you at the table---not because you can't do it---but because they want to demonstrate their respect for you. These men will do their utmost to strengthen you, not weaken you.

Answer 2

These guys you have observed are real winners, aren't they?! Not every guy is like that. Trust me. One day you will find a mature, kind, respectful man who will treat you like a lady. These guys have obviously had no one to teach them to treasure and cherish their female counterparts...they are immature and probably insecure as well. It's hard to do but you just have to ignore it; the more you react, the more a guy like that will keep on being a jack-***, just to get that reaction from you. I should add, however, that if a guy is HARASSING you, then you need to report him to the appropriate authority. If it's at school, talk to a teacher or the principal. If it's in public, by all means tell your parents. You do not have to put up with continual harassment and bullying from ANYONE; guys included. Hope this helps and best wishes for a good future with a man who will treat you right!!

Answer 3

Well a lot of guys ( just like women ) are insecure themselves and they say things like that to inflate their own egos. Just trying to compensate for something else. Also they are a little behind a womans maturity ( not all, but the majority of the ones making the comments ) And 3rd, some males/females are just plain mean. Just hateful ppl. I guess it is what they learned as children.
There is no real excuse for ppl being nasty. It is hurtful, but unfortunately in the world we live in today - it is the norm. Sad, but true.
And not to mention judgemental...ugh...don't you hate that.
The fact of the matter is, nobody deserves to be talked to like that, but it happens.
Sorry those guys gotcha down
Just be glad you aren't the sad girl that has them as a mate! LOL Think of how bad off they have it!

Answer 4

I totally agree with you. Men are becoming more insecure, because just like us women, they are under social pressure to look good. But the difference is, rather than turning their insecurities inwards like us gals do, they tend to turn them towards women and become more judgemental and critical of us and our appearances.

At the end of the day, just remember if a guy has a problem with you, it's HIS problem and not YOURS. Don't ever let anyone bring you down, because that means they have won and they certainly don't deserve to. Take care : )

Answer 5

Tons of men around the world are jackas-ses, especially online. Online you don't know how old they are so the could be a teenager. There are men that think the are better than women, yes. But, if they try to weaken, you should do your best to pay it no mind. The must have nothing better to do than be creeps. Look at it as you're the better person. :-)

Answer 6

It depends on the sophistication level and the background of the guy on how he behaves with women if if something about what they did or said hurts him. Some lowly creatures by being rude to you only are making effort to gain power over you, its their way of hiding their own insecurity, underconfidence and frustration. The mentality seems to be: as girls actually dont want to talk to me so its better to hurt them. It is an attention grabbing and power gaining effort.

Answer 7

Numerous Reasons:

1Media
2Men who were raised to not respect women
3Men who don't have have common sense, or a good head on their shoulders
4Unhappy with themselves-misery loves company-when your unhappy with 'yourself' it's easy to make others feel miserable too

Not all men are like this, you may have just run into some men.. displaying their less then shining moments

Answer 8

Only weak guys try to bring women down. Strong men like strong women with minds of their own. Ignore the cave men.

Answer 9

1. what business is of yours to control who see's, talks to, etc to another human being? are you god now? how would you like it if some that you maybe liked was told not to get near you cause you were nuts? you'd be mad too. keep your comments to yourself and butt out of others lives......he has all the right to dog back on you.

2. you walk by and not say hi...not hello...not wow, its a cold day....nothing but you choose to say "you are crazy" meaning they are mental, have issues, etc. again...are you god? how dare you just walk up to someone and put them down like that.....hopefully people walk by you and just call you a b*tch just cause you look like one. then maybe you'll understand what you did.

3. why are you ease dropping in on others convos? do you not realize this is invasion of privacy?

the problem isn't with anyone else but with you.....you have this chip on your shoulder that makes you think you are better than others, higher than others and can just do anything you want no matter the results.

back up and shut up more often....people don't like being told on, listened in on, to be called names, etc.

you have a lot of maturing to do or you are gonna have a very lonely life without any friends.

Answer 10

nope its just you guys are the same as women women say do and talk about the same things as men I think your just having a bad week or maybe year