2006-10-31 14:22:43 · 8 answers · asked by Rebecka C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Although they do NOT care about you -- the best advice is this:
GET in TOUCH with a Local Shelter for Abuse Victims -- and ASK for their help.
It is one of the most dangerous times when one is LEAVING a miserable relationship -- and even more so when the individual they are leaving has addiction issues, mental illness, violence issues, whatever ... and it sounds like the spouse may have all of these.
THEY need you to be co-dependent.
YOU do NOT need to be co-dependent, but you also need to RELOCATE Successfully where they can NO LONGER Threaten or endanger you.
2006-10-31 14:34:38 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow!!
This question brings back a lot of memories about how I left my ex- because of his addictions to drugs, alcohol and and cheating.
I finally got the courage to pack-up all his stuff and put it in the Garage one day.
When he came home from work later that same day, I told him that I had enough of his addictions (he would never admit that he had any problems, so he never seeked any help) and that I wanted him to get out of my life forever!! I gotta admit this was the best decision that I ever made...now I am with a really great guy who I never want to live without and needless to say...he has no addictions!
2006-10-31 15:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by angelbeliever114 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things get rough and you leave. You don't feel like being supportive, its too hard, and you leave. You don't get it, you aren't the one with the addiction. Addicted people deserve wht they get-- right?? Just walk out- they may be better off.
I am married to a recovering substance abuser. For 5 long years it has been a rough row to hoe. But let me tell you something- I don't regret sticking it out. Not a bit. My life has been a learning curve, and I was able to see it because of the DIFFICULT times and through some wonderfully GOOD times.. What can you learn if its sugar pies and rainbows everyday?? I am also thankful for what I have learned through all of this.
2006-10-31 14:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by rottymom02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're precise. they are the comparable..........and that they do no longer look to be. you would be unable to bypass to detention center for..........Twinkies. So there's a distinction. And that distinction is ethical character. in spite of the incontrovertible fact that, to handle your factor. dependancy is dependancy. And the place does dependancy stem from? It stems from unresolved soreness in a individual's existence. they'd't cope with the soreness and sorrow from something of their previous, many times their childhood, so they turn to an addictive habit that covers over or mask the soreness. they'd't take care of the soreness so they pick something that mitigates the sorrow. for sure, the addictive habit can by no potential restoration the subject for the subject by no potential gets addressed! it is why the dependancy is a by no potential ended escalating subject. The abuser sees the dependancy as a medicine, yet like each drugs, it takes further and extra and greater to attain the comparable consequence. (it is ? no longer something) if your addict can ever even face the subject, you have a raffle at restoration. in spite of the incontrovertible fact that, maximum persons can't and could no longer take care of the subject(s) on their very own accord. in the event that they did, they does no longer be an addict. dah! It takes an intervention of counselors to hold the subject to the exterior. %. up Theophostic Prayer Ministry (Ed Smith). that's a great e book to understand the character of addictions / therapeutic. Google up rejoice restoration. that's the subsequent gen of AA that bargains with ALL dependancy issues alongside with the "codependency" area.
2016-10-03 03:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pack your things and leave, why would you stay, you can not fix him, you can not change him. If he is going to get it together he will if not he wont. there is nothing you can do and by staying he is no doubt bringing you down with him. At least emotionally, you need to get yourself away from this situation and fast. If he is going to get some help fine. But i would not go back until I seen some real change in him for at least a 6month period of time. Good luck and God bless
2006-10-31 14:27:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are on drugs it shouldn't be so hard to leave them because they care nothing about you,they will only bring you down with then and don't care.you have no life so why not leave.
2006-10-31 14:25:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how - walk out the door. clean out the bank, put all the bills in in his name and walk away. you will be better off. find a good attorney and document every thing. if you have kids...get that all to yourself too....it is in their best interest and safest for them. anywhere there is help - women's hotline etc....get it ask for it. there are some smart people out here and they will help you!! GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-31 15:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the law in volved and then file for divorce while they are in jail.
2006-10-31 16:15:05 · answer #8 · answered by rsbalent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋