I'm only 13 but still...when I have a baby I'm so scared I'm going to be a bad mother.
2006-10-31 14:22:33 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I had my daughter when I was 22 and although I was married after I had her I am now rasing her by my self with my mothers help. I am now 24 and going through a divorce and she is two. I Got my Ged and am now in college to become a Social Worker. So my advice to you is take it slow stay in school and dont have sex until you believe you are ready. dont let anyone pressure you into having sex either it is your body and it is your choice. And when you do decide to have sex make sure you use protection. atleast until you are sure you want to get pregnet. and trust me. ....as soon as you deliver look into the child's eyes and you will know everything is going to be ok. that is how it was for me I didnt even get help with breast feeding I did it all by my self. pray to the goddess and she will be there to help you. Trust me no one better to ask be it Mother Earth or Mother Mary. They are always there to help when you truly need it. So Blessed be little girl and may be spirirt of the goddess be with you
2006-10-31 14:45:08 · answer #1 · answered by rainamem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 23 when I had my first and I was still terrified. Calm down sweet heart, it's going to be alright. I'm sure you have people around you who will help you. Just always remember that children are gifts from God, and are very precious. So always treat them delicately and be thankful that you have an oppurtunity to mold a child to become whatever you want to help them become. Babys are there for love. All you need to be a good mother is a lot of love and to just do the best you can. And always remember the #1 rule of thumb, in order to take good care your child you must 1st take good care of yourself. There is no one in this world that can love a baby as much as a mother does. God Bless, good luck, trust God.
2006-10-31 14:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey all I can say is dont stress and worry about that part of life in this part of your life ... enjoy life and being a good mum comes naturally ... you will know when you have your baby and hold it for the first time ... Mothers Bond ... and it all goes by how you were brought up too... 13 years old, mmmmm your a year older than my daughter and yes it is a natural fear but let it go ... talk to your Mum too ... as my daughter has with me.
2006-10-31 21:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont want to be a bad mom then DONT have kids until you are married and own your own home with a yard and are financially able to stay home and look after the kids - kids raised in day cares suffer.. and kids who come home to an empty home suffer..
mostly dont be in a rush to have kids - watch and learn from others mistakes
dont have more than 1 or 2 kids - as you can see the world is over populated and if we continue to have kids in mass numbers we will be making a far worse future for them.. I wonder where we will have farm land 50 years from now unless people start having smaller families
2006-10-31 15:42:29 · answer #4 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do not have sex!!! Getting pregnant can happen at any age. It doesnt matter how old you are, how mature you are, if youre rich poor, pretty or ugly. I got taken advantage of when i was at a party by someone who i thought was a very good friend of mine. SEXUAL INTERCOUSE ONE TIME, and now im gonna have this responsibility for the rest of my life. Im 18, and very scared, but im fortunate enough to have the support of my family. sex is a huge step, and if youre a virgin i strongly recommend saving it til marriage, and im sure all women will agree with that statement. it doesnt matter if you "love the person" or not. once its gone u cant get it back and youll understand its importance once you lose it. if youve already lost it, its ok. everyone makes mistakes and god is wonderful and forgiving. just PLEASE dont have sex. protection doesnt even work all the time. im sure u b an awesome mommy when the time comes. hopefully when youre married and in love.
2006-10-31 14:33:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you pregnant? If the answer is no then don't worry about it. It will come with age and wisdom. Just make sure to be extra careful when you do become sexually active, which you shouldn't do until you think your responsible enough to take care of a baby.
2006-10-31 16:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur only 13 you have plenty of time to grow up mature and have a baby and learn how to be a mom ... and i hear that you make the most mistakes with your first child because your new to motherhood... and thats what your mom is for ... to teach you how to be a mom... and dont worry about that right now... the time will come when you need to worry about that... now isnt the time
2006-10-31 14:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by statefrogy_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, you don't have to worry about that for a very long time. You won't be the same person at 23 that you are at 13....you will undoubtedly be a great mother.....or you wouldn't be so worried about it now.
2006-10-31 15:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about concentrating on school and a college education. Wait until you move to "London" and get stable before thinking about a baby.
How old is Broc?
2006-10-31 15:35:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Learn all you can about kids before having them. Take early childhood education classes and parenting classes. Be prepared and you will have alot less fear. Alittle fear is normal every parents has it.
2006-10-31 17:05:17 · answer #10 · answered by BigBuggie5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋