Been hearing a lot of adultery cases lately...from both parties.
Guys, girls, how many chances would you give your partners who have cheated on you before you call it quits? Also depends on what you consider cheating...ie. a kiss, a romantic hug, the 'deed'
2006-10-31 14:15:59 · 27 answers · asked by Caroline R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh wow, there are a lot of people that have been hurt by cheating! And alot are answering this question!
Moral values are probably at an all time low in this country right now...so not a big surprise that there's alot of cases about this.
As a former cheater....Yes I did it...many times, many ways. I can tell you that it takes one person to change your ways. My husband came into my life and that was it, I didn't need anything else. To me cheating was a way of looking if things were greener on the other side without giving up what I had at the moment. But I have been on the other side of the situation also. People get hurt, people obviously become bitter! Cheating is a way for people to look for something they're not getting at the moment. Will they cheat again if they've cheated once, not necesarily. Once a need is fulfilled, there won't be a need to look for greener pastures! And ladies...don't buy into that crap that your man will not cheat if you keep him satisified and give it to him all the time! That's some horny man's way out...they were on their way a long time ago if that's the excuse he gave you!
So anyway...give someone you LOVE a second chance, everyone makes mistakes.
2006-10-31 16:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HI,
Well you can give them 2 chances , i think the second chance is more than enough.Giving a peck on a cheeck is normal but kissing is too much. Romantic hugs too much.
My advise is dont keep hearing from other, see n hear for your self and than when u urself will realize. When they start flirting with other women there is no point of living with this man anymore. There are least bothered about you and your feelings. Why wanna waste ur time , money and energy for someone who is cheating on you.
Think for yourself, you are better than him in all the ways. When you think the world has turned it's back on you, take a look, you most likely turned your back on the world.
2006-10-31 14:26:26 · answer #2 · answered by treesha_006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating to me is anything u can't share with your mate, meeting, kissing, sharing emotions, sex, with others. i would give him one chance, providing he was remorseful, and willing to go to therapy. but i would not just forgive it, and go back to where it was before the cheating began.i feel everyone deserves one mistake, but only one where cheating is concerned. would depend on if it were a one night stand or a long term affair also.if i knew they plotted and planned and had been with this person many times, forgiveness would take alot longer, and maybe i couldn't at all.but after giving that one chance and it happened again i would divorce them, because i could no longer trust them ever.hugging, kissing, the deed is disrespect for the other person in the marriage, and shows what they truly think of you. it is all a form of cheating.
2006-10-31 14:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no chances. depends on how a person is, cheating could start from a simple catch up with out the other persons knowledge, to the deed.
2006-10-31 14:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First person who cheats loses. I only give one chance. I consider cheating a "real" kiss or anything more physical. Its the ultimate act of betrayal.
2006-10-31 14:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would give ONE chance on this... if it happens once, forgivable- if it happens TWICE NO WAY i would forgive it! If someone loves you like they should in a relationship/marriage, they wouldnt cheat on you in the first place. I believe everyone should get a 2nd chance, but third is not a chance to give.
2006-10-31 14:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could happen just once and a lot depends on the circumstances, what was happening in our marriage at the time, how he feels about the other person, and what we both needed to do to repair the damage.
Adultery is more than what happens physically....the trust has been broken.
2006-10-31 14:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends what you mean by cheating. As long as things are in the open and no one is hiding anything, then its ok. When deceipt is involved, two chances are allowed, three strikes your out.
2006-10-31 14:19:49 · answer #8 · answered by Fun Couple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not give any chances, because my trust would be gone and if I can't trust someone then I don't want to be with them. If I found out he was talking to someone behind my back or had been out with someone, that would be enough. I don't do lying and trust is a big thing to me, so there would be no forgiveness.
2006-11-01 05:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if my husband was every unfaithful to me in any way kiss, hug, whatever he'd be out the door so fast his feet wouldnt touch the ground, and he knows it cos ive told him.
i wouldnt give him a second chance no matter how much i love him cos if he did it once he'll do it again, and if he did it in the first place he obviously dosen't love me anyway so whats the point of staying.
2006-11-01 00:34:06 · answer #10 · answered by rosierotweiller 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋