How do you get back to get new lover after a divorce after a long period of marriage?

Answer 1

go out and try to be with your friends just don't stay home waiting for them to come or mope around because they will never come, you have to make yourself available and pretty all the time!!

Answer 2

I think you should think peacefully and try not to think about the past. Try to make more friends. Maybe tell yourself within these several months, you will only look for pure friendship. Don't push yourself to get a new lover. If you rush, you may only hook up yourself to a wrong person. You will know which person you can trust and which cannot. You are looking for a long term relationship but not another broken relationship. Try to help others and listen the heart of others. Be a giver and not a receiver. People tends to like someone who know how to care others. Someone will appreciate your kindness and will approach you soon. Don't worry.

Answer 3

there is no set time to heal from a divorce after a long marriage. i know i was married for twenty one years. the first few months of my divorce i was to busy dealing with the divorce, the rumours being spread etc. i found the friends we had well we were married seemed to disappear into the wood work. i had to make a whole new group of friends. and during that time i rediscovered myself and my outlook and approach to everything changed. it was almost a year and a half before i even started looking for another relationship. you need time to heal and when you are done healing you will naturally begin looking

Answer 4

First of all -- take your time -- don't just jump into the first available thing that passes your way -- because it is more of a rebound -- and is very CRUEL to the person you would be involved with (would you want to be used for a time and then tossed aside as an afterthought?).

ONLY after you are comfortable as a SUCCESSFUL and Self-Confident Single, can you then project the self-confidence to attract another person who could love you for the person you are, and not some trophy or plaything.

Answer 5

you have to love yourself first before you can love someone else. a hurt heart takes time to heal from a troubled marriage.take your time, to get a lover,a nice one, you first have to be over your hurts from your divorce,and be the person who u want to attract.go out places, go to church, they often times have singles groups, where there are many people you can meet. just get out there when your ready and go for it, if u see someone u might be attracted to start up a conversation with them, get them to talk about themselves, be warm and friendly, never mentioning your divorce or problems. and u should do just fine.

Answer 6

First of all, don't try to get a new lover. Start out seeking just friendship and love will come in stride. Go to clubs for singles, or try internet dating, but be careful in picking out potential dates. You can also ask your friends to introduce you to single men they know. Good luck.

Answer 7

Just take things a ease, casual relation or better a one night stand and on the way if you find the good lover,steak with him,if not just enjoy it and be be careful and safe.

Answer 8

That should be something you never forget,that is why a lot of marriages end we tin to forget to do the things after we are married for a while.

Answer 9

Waiting is BEST. Just wait. People who are desperate to establish a new relationship will only get screwed up.

Good things come to those who wait. Yeah, it sounds trite, but don't push it.

Go volunteer for things and you'll meet lots of people with your same interests.

Answer 10

Just advertise that you recently got divorce and wait for the right one to knock on your door.

Answer 11

take your time and look for someone that is like you so that you will have a good chance of lasting a long time together. be friends first and get to know eachother.

where to meet someone is up to you. keep your eyes open and live like you always do.