In the household. Should a women and a man be treated equally or should one rule over the other?

Question

I was watching wife swap on T.V. the other night. In that episode one of the homes the man was treated as a king and the woman as a servant and in the other home the wife was treated literally as a queen and the husband did what is called "Women's work." Do you think this is how it's suppost to be?

Answer 1

“The wildest dreams of Kew are the facts of Katmandu, and the crimes of Clapham chaste in Martaban.” -- Rudyard Kipling --

You can't answer a question like that out of cultural context. I don't think there is any biological mandate for things to be that way, but sometimes "gender roles" are the glue of social order.

Personally, I prefer an even footing for everyone.

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Answer 2

I heard an older gal once give advice to a young married man. She said in their household things aren't always 50/50. Sometimes they are 90/10. She didn't delineate which percentage was husband or wife. I got the impression from the context of the conversation that this ratio could go either way depending on the situation.

Answer 3

The bible does say that the man is the head and wives are to submit to their husbands BUT it also says in the same place that husbands are to honor and cherish their wives. In essence, we are to submit to each other. This is what selfless love (Greek: Agape) is all about. No one should dominate another.

I am the head of my household and what I say goes. My wife prefers it this way. But I always ask her opinion and input into any decision that is made and she expects me to. The key is I don't abuse being the head of the house.

Men can focus on detail while women tend to see the big picture. If either one is too dominant you have a mess. Men and women so perfectly balance each other with their atributes. You can see where it goes all screwy in a house with all guy or all girls.

Answer 4

I believe there's no right or wrong here.

It's just compatibility. And some guys may like to do houseworks that they get satisfaction from taking over the dishes and laundry works.

There's always a more dominant person in a relationship. It can be 70-30 ratio, 50-50, 20-80. As long as it ends up in a full 100 things will probably end up well.

Answer 5

A woman and man should be respected for what each other does to help in making the home run and should be treated equally. It should not be one sided because it's fair to the other.

Answer 6

No, it should be equality of life in the home but some times one partner is better at some things than the other.

There should be no such thing as "women's work" or even "men's work" you need to work it out together but it take quite a few years of marriage or partnership to achieve this.

If one keeps working on the give and take aspect of the relationship it should work out. Give it time.

Answer 7

The Bible says the man is to be the head of the household. BUT: I don't believe those old fashioned views hold anymore with women working out and contributing as much as the man. Marriage needs to be 50/50 or someone is going to be unhappy (when mama's unhappy, everyone's unhappy).

Answer 8

in my house my husband work and I stay at home with our children. His duty is to keep the family comfortable (hence that is why he works) He has nothing to do as far as woman's work is concerned. As long as if I don't have to work outside of the house he don't have to work inside the house.

Answer 9

Whatever works for a particular couple. Nobody else can tell you how to live your life. If you choose man>woman, or woman>man or woman=man and liked it that way, would you let someone else make you change it?

Answer 10

In the house its a question of sharing the household responsibilities and no work is small.