im in ROTC and I am the commander of a drill team that I have many friends on. My best friend has been especially rude towards me in practice but I am having a hard time approaching her because things seem rocky between us lately. She has apologized to me several times however but even after she tells me she will be better she continues to be a disturbance. Should I talk to her again. If so what do i do if the problem continues...
2006-10-31 13:45:39 · 10 answers · asked by reginaspektorrocks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If she is your best friend and she is acting this way, their has to be something bothering her. Don't do something you will regret later. You obviously can't let her belittle you in front of the class, be firm on that, but be very patient with her in your personal life. Is she dating someone new? Hanging with new friends? Are you sure you aren't putting her on the back burner for something else? Some people don't understand that there friends can be busy and still be their friends. You are in a tough spot. I hope it works out for you so that you two can remain friends.
2006-10-31 14:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to decide which is more important - your position as commander or your "friend" (I put friend in quotes here because a true friend wouldn't be jealous of your position, which she clearly is.). If you position is more important, talk to your ROTC supervisor to make sure you have their backing, then take this person aside immediately after one of her rude incidents and let her know that if she has a problem with you she needs to speak up, otherwise you expect her to behave professionally during drill time (practice or performance) and treat you as she would with any other commanding officer...with respect. If she continues her behavior, pursue having her removed from the team. This is one of the hard things about being friends with those under your command. You have a job to do (build a solid, respectable, professional team that understands what military bearing is and maintains it during practices and performances). You can't let friendship get in the way of that.....if you want to be a commander. If you want to be a friend, relinquish your command to someone that wants it.
2006-10-31 21:58:36 · answer #2 · answered by ricktheirish1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok let me see hemmm shes your best freind and your relationship has been kind of rocky and you dont want to lose her as
a friend ohhh yeah and shes on the drill team ok so if youve known her for a long time and of course even the best of freinds get into fights but it is the things that person and the persons
shared and been throught togeather and love for one an other
that holds them togeather if shes part of the team and you fell
as if shes backing you bad her know
but with love and let her know that know matter what happens
that you would always be her freind
but let her know you have to be fair that you have to treat
every body fair and that the only reason your giving her
severle chances is because your her friend that you care about
her and that you want to see her make throw rotc but if she cared about you and see how much its herting you on your part that she would straighten up
2006-10-31 22:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by playboyakabunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to lay down concequences. This chick is deliberately doing this, probably because she is jealous and knows you won't do anything. Get tough. In front of everyone, get an attitude and tell her to take a hike. Let everyone know that from now on you are going to hand out punishment for getting out of line. Don't let people walk all over you. It sounds like you have put up with too much already and they think they can keep dishing it out. Teach them differently.
2006-10-31 21:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should talk to her and explain to her that you do have a problem with her continuously disturbance, and it is effecting work ..... and she has to stop her rudeness ....and tell her, their will be no next time, for her apologizes.........all the best
2006-10-31 21:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her straight foroward that you hate it and she better stop.or maybe be soft she might have hard problems at home. Just tell her what is wrong why is she acting this way!
2006-10-31 23:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by lizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is demanded of you by your job, writr her up if you have to. Either she'll understand or she's not worth having as a friend.
2006-10-31 21:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by Roadpizza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her demerits, or whatever disciplinary procedures you would use with people who are not your friend. If your friend has no respect for your position, then she is not your friend.
2006-10-31 21:52:45 · answer #8 · answered by Rum_Punch_Girlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick her out and make an example of her to show you mean business
2006-10-31 21:52:28 · answer #9 · answered by acierman2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well explain to her that its not the time and place to be fulling around
2006-10-31 21:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by superbudz14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋