I put out a question yesterday about cheating on my wife, looked at the answers don"t really care if I'm a cheater I love my wife u try working away from home most of the year,see a nice girl to have fun with and take it from there! No I'm not gonna end my marriage or even tell her,u people would do the same if u were in my shoes p.s. I love my wife!!!!
2006-10-31 13:30:51 · 25 answers · asked by DoingItRight! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you don't get to spend much time with her. Distance can really put a strain on a relationship. I'm guessing you cheat because you feel you need intimacy. Maybe you should talk to your wife about it, keeping a secret like that will eat you alive, but if you can live with that guilt, go ahead. I hope your wife doesn't ever find out, it will be hard for her to ever trust you again, she may be able to forgive you, but she will never forget.
2006-10-31 13:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by Bu Tran 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you don't. You cannot love someone you have no respect for, and you have no respect for your wife. If you did, you would accept responsibility for your behavior and not blame everyone and every thing else. You are the one who broke her trust and your vows, you and only you.
What everyone else does isn't pertinent. Only what promises you made to your wife and whether or not you are man enough to keep them. And from your whining, defensive answer above, you have answered your own question.
Like most guys who think they can cheat and get away with it, I will promise you that some day, some how, she'll find out.
Oh and on a personal level, I don't cheat and never would. My partner deserves better than that. So does your wife.
2006-10-31 22:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't blame it on working out of town nearly the whole year.....maybe you need to find another job ..........if you really love your wife and if you don't want to then maybe you shouldn't be married.
As for "you try working out of town all the time" how do you think your wife feels? From someone who knows.......it probably feels like she has a roommate when you come home from her being so used of you being gone........and she probably feels that she has to get to know you again in a sence from you being gone so much.......and am sure just as lonely
You should be thinking about how she feels and if the situation was reversed.....if she found a guy to have fun with because you are gone all the time.......how would you react.....
2006-10-31 22:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say you don't know the true meaning of love and you have absolutely no respect for your wife or yourself by dishonoring your wedding vows. You shouldn't have said those vows if you didn't mean them. Why didn't you just stay boyfriend and girlfriend so you could continue your promiscuous lifestyle without the possible consequences of destroying this person you say you love who has committed her whole life to you? Unless of course you are OK with your wife cheating on you. But that's a different story now isn't it? I think you are very selfish.
p.s. There's a REASON why this saying is so popular: WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND.
2006-10-31 22:29:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't love you wife because you continue to cheat on her. Think about how she would feel if she ever found out and then measure your degree of love for her based on her reaction to having found out that her husband cheats. When you love someone you don't intentionally do something you know will hurt them if they find out about it. You are just trying to justify your wrongdoing. If seeing pretty girls and having a little fun is important to you, why not divorce and you can have as much fun as you want?
2006-10-31 21:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are saying, but you gotta stop what you are doing. Imagine she is there waiting for you to come buit when you are there you are already sexed up you don't need her and you start blaming it on the trip and whaterever else...
It's just not fair. How would you feel if she was cheating on you at the same way becasue you are always away from home?
Treat her the same way you would like her top treat you - fair game!
2006-10-31 21:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by Trinity 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since you are gone so much maybe your wife is having some fun of her own. Maybe she isnt telling you. Maybe she loves you too but sometimes a woman needs what a man thats gone can't do.How would you feel about that. Puts it in a differnt light huh?
2006-10-31 21:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats ********!!!
total and utter crap!!!
my husband works away for long periods to but he doesnt cheat on me because he LOVES me and our kids and he is happy in our marriage he would rather have a **** 4times a wk than cheat on me.
something you obviously aint heard of.
you dont love your wife if you did you would not be humiliating her this way. poor cow i feel sorry for her.
you just want to have your cake and eat it.
if you truly love your wife do the desent thing and let her go and be free to find someone who will TRULY LOVE her and RESPECT her as you obviously dont.
LOSER!!!!
2006-11-01 08:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by rosierotweiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a guy or a girl? Why ask this question when your mind is made up? Does anyone really care?
Do what you gotta do - have a nice day:)
2006-10-31 21:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I like your honesty. I have been there and done that and I respect you for standing up like this.
I believe you in saying that you are not going to tell her, and that you are not going to end your marriage.
You are the only one person that can answer the question that you submitted.
I know you are going to get several opinions on this, but I ask you to be discreet and never mention the girls name that you are cheating with. I do hope that you do not talk in your sleep, it might be dangerous that way.
Be careful and Good Luck.l
2006-10-31 21:36:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋