I feel sorry for him and i told him i would watch his kids becvaz he is goin threw somethings and he told me his babies momma just dropped them off over there one day and move to LA with his brother becaz she is about to have kids with him9his brother) His daughters are 4 and 5 and they dont have a mom now and i love them from when we went out when i was 16 they are my heart.I grew up with out a dad and that **** hurt me and my mom wasnt really around and i kno a man could neva raise a girl like aq women could i kno i'm not grown but i love them and i dont want them to hurt like i did with out my dad.Should i be his girl and be they mom
2006-10-31 13:14:10 · 17 answers · asked by mrs.hustlemane 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
you need a better life than this.
you need to be developing YOU. YOU. You. You owe it to yourself and the kids you will make one day with a decent man, when you can stay home with your babies and make a good family.
2006-10-31 14:05:52 · answer #1 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are way too young for this mess girl. Spend time with the little girls if you want , but the guy sounds like no good. You need to finish growing up, and 17 isn't it, believe me, I know. I had a kid at 17, the only reason we are stil around is that I had a lot of support from my family.
Please, ditch the guy and finish high school. Go to college or juco and get a decnet job. Enjoy being young and single and not tied down. You can be a frined to those kids with out sacrificing your own future.
2006-10-31 13:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're really asking 2 questions here - should you get back together with your ex and should you take care of his kids.
It's great of you to want to spare the little girls from pain, but it's a serious responsability for you at this age and I think you might be better off not taking it on.
As for the girls' father - he's 23 with 2 kids whos mother abandoned them to go make babies with his brother. Isn't that just a little more drama than you want to be part of?
I feel bad for the girls, and even a little bad for the guy, but is this really the situation you want to be part of?
2006-10-31 13:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by sdc_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is boy is looking for someone to take care of his kids. He is manipulating you to do the job. You are so young and there are so many guys out there!! What is wrong with him that he can't find women his own age to date? Women his own age see through his con and want no part of it thats why. If you are not careful you will get sucked into his trap and you will destroy your chances of haveing a great life. GO TO COLLEGE!!! Don't raise some guys babies. He needs to grow up and take responsibility for his own actions! He is playing on your sympathies and your emotions. It is called a guilt trip!
2006-11-01 03:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by titakay2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl let me tell you first i think right from the start you are being played why would you be their mom your not they have a momma and its not you some day youll have your own kids youll have to deal with first you probably told him what you have been through with your child hood and hes playing on that cause he knows you dont want to see a child go through that and whaat do you mean get back again i dont know if any one has ever told you this but exs are exs for a reason and you never get back with them cause its just a repeated course. girl dont do this to yourself or those kids,lets look at it this way you dont want these kids to be hurting but okay you treat them as your own then 8 months from now you guys break up once again thats hurting the kids too cause they just go so close to you and boom your gone GET MY POOOINTTTT
2006-10-31 13:48:40 · answer #5 · answered by jessie j schroedie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm about your age. My boyfriend is older than me as well although he's childless, actually I'm the first woman he's been with. The point is that it's very stressful to be 17, you don't need to be playing mom especially to kids that aren't yours. Yea you should find a way to be in their lives since you love them, and a men really couldn't raise a little girl like they should be, but don't be mommy. Good Luck & Best wishes to you, your ex and his girls.
2006-10-31 15:58:12 · answer #6 · answered by Bast 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound truly sincere... But you don't have to be with him to be there for the girls, you can offer to watch them, you can take them to places just you guys... do girl things with them, ever heard of Libby Lu? EVERY little girl I know loves that place! I think you're in a tough situation... I know other people say you need to grow up first but obviously you're mature whether or not every sense isn't that case, but for you to want to be there, that takes a big person... I hope everything works out well for ALL of you!! Be careful though, little ones are at stake!
2006-10-31 13:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by Lane's Mommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks some thing strange! He is 23 and has 2 daughters (surely from his 'ex' or may be 'ex ex')! You are 17 and he is your 'ex'. Are you and he changing 'ex' and 'fex' every day?
Both of you are maitaken, misguided. You need to consult your parents! We wish you best of luck! But you are working very very hard to have trouble over troubl and then truoble over trouble!
What kind of mom you will be? You r still 17;
dont be silly to walk on muddy paths ~ these paths lead to miserable places.
2006-11-04 04:43:22 · answer #8 · answered by MY Regards to All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your only 17 you have no bizninz being with a 23 year old..plus he has not one but two kids what you need to do is be with someone your own age and have kids with them, your man has alrady experienced life you need to move on and let him deal with his own problems..and are you his babysitter or his girl...to top it of by you only being 17 you are not a woman and you dont need to be raising no one elses kids at that age...get ya mind right
2006-11-01 01:08:33 · answer #9 · answered by isydnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
... or you could leave that whole trailer trash scenario and go to school, learn a few things, get a decent job, meet some guys with a college degree... and then maybe when you're 28 or so, be a mom to your own kids - ever thought of that?
2006-10-31 13:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋