With in minutes of talking to guys on the net,
I get asked if I am wearing panties or what panties and I wearing
& /or will I show them on the cam
I get this all of the time
The only reason I tell people I am a pre op transsexual is
a) To help with my self deployment and support
b) As to not miss lead people
I am starting to get a little bit sick of these questions
Do others get these questions all of the time ?
And what do you do to get rid of these guys?
2006-10-31 13:12:13 · 6 answers · asked by Zara3 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Men are pigs. LoL Men get turned on by just about anything.
Tammi Dee
2006-10-31 13:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by tammidee10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't get questions like that all the time, but it's not uncommon even if I don't mention that I'm transgender. Some of my non-t girlfriends get the same thing as well, others don't. I think it's just a crude form of flirting.
But depending on how they ask and how I feel, I'll respond in different ways. Most of the time I'll be like "sorry not interested, try somewhere else" and that's enough of a signal to get them to go away... hopefully to someone who is actually interested in that kind of attention.
Sometimes if he seems like an otherwise nice guy who's just getting too personal too fast I'll just try and slow him down and see what happens... usually we keep chatting for a bit then he disappears never to be heard from again.
2006-10-31 17:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by angiekaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not what you say, it's what you do that tell others who you are and what you are ready for.
When they ask about your underwear, they assume that choice will reveal something deeper and truer about you than only your words reveal.
And when they ask you to do something for them, something personal and revelatory, how you choose to respond tells them if you are willing to go farther, if you are worth the investment.
If you were born female, they'd ask the same kind of questions, the questions that they think tell them what they need to know about you.
And you and your girlfriends would have figured out how to parry these questions, turn them back in a flirtatious way, or decide to walk away.
Setting boundaries is a key part of relationships. The way the dance usually goes is that men push boundaries and women push back. And men continue the chase until they get what they want or decide they aren't going to get what they want.
When you are centered in your own sexuality, you can learn to push back.
But in the end, the way you push, the choices you make, are what reveals you to potential partners.
Don't expect any of them to stop trying to push you to find out who you are behind your words.
2006-10-31 14:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by Chao L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They've got a name: "Trannie Chasers"
Online, they can be blocked usually. Just like everyone else, watch what personal information you put out on the net too. They can be annoying, but fortunately they give themselves away fairly quickly and then they make it to the block list. I'm very out IRL and online and have encountered a few. They don't seem to be that persistant online.
2006-10-31 19:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you bring up a subject, people assume you want to talk about it.
2006-10-31 13:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you wearing boxers or a thong?
2006-10-31 13:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋