ok my brother is 13 and he found out i was bisexual last year, he never has said much about it but i know he knows that i am and when ever the subject of my sexuality''or anyone elses'' comes up he gets really weird.....should i talk to him about it and risk pissing him off, or just let things be as they are now with both of us walking on eggshells to avoid the subject all together?
2006-10-31 12:54:21 · 11 answers · asked by allen=[\m/] 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I have a similar issue with my younger brother. I find that it is easier for him to not talk about it unless he brings it up. Sure, I still bring the boifriend around for dinner and holidays but he has plenty of warning. Not many of the people in my family are ok with my being gay but there is not anything that I can do about it. It is their issue. The only thing that I can do to make it more comfortable is to relax when I am in their home and just let things go. When I am around him I do not have to be an advocate. I just have to be his brother. If he wants to talk about it he will. We all also have some suspicions that he might be gay and that may very well be why he is weird about it. His own insecurities. It gets easier.
2006-10-31 12:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He is 13, give him a break, you just be you, and treat him the same as you always have, he probably doesn't understand why, so maybe you should explain that to him, so he does, much better than walking on eggshells, and frees your mind up too.
Remember It doesn't define who you are it is only part of who you are.
Share your feelings with him, so he will learn and understand how you feel, and that is is ok to be Bi, gay, or what ever.
2006-10-31 21:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by fugidoxi 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your brother is still your brother. Talking with him may be difficult, simply because he IS your brother, and used to pelting you with spitballs instead of having "meaningful conversations". At 13 (finding out when he was 12) sex is a VERY uncomfortable subject. He is just beginning to find out about his own physical changes and changes in mood, only to discover you are a little...."different" in your sexual expression. That is going to make him uncomfortable. You can try to have the brotherly chat, but try to be sensitive. He is still a kid, after all, despite any bravado he may display.
You may want to try opening it up by asking him how he "feels" about you, or the whole subject of sex, etc. Keep the topic non-threatening and familial. It's worth a try!
2006-10-31 21:30:56 · answer #3 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend talking to him, as long as you have a close enough bond. Even if he doesn't support you fully, I'm sure he'll appreciate your openess and honesty. I feel very lucky that both my brother and I are bisexual, so there's no need to worry about bad feelings. We have two younger siblings, and have been upfront with them from the beginning. They take everything in stride and it seems normal to them. I guess with your case, your brother knew you as "straight" for 12 years, so maybe he feels you were hiding something from him. Give him a chance to be cool about it, and if he's not, move ahead form there.
2006-10-31 21:03:25 · answer #4 · answered by libbysnax 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he seems to have a problem with it, I think a talk is appropriate. It might be weird if he's figuring stuff out for himself, but someone who can tell him it's ok if he happens to be heterosexual, and it's also ok if he happens not to be....you could be a really good influence in his life. At very least, clear the air of awkwardness.
2006-11-01 02:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to him when he's older. when he is more mature and he'll understand better. he's just 13.
try 15 or 16, or when ever you feel he's mature enough to handle it
2006-10-31 20:56:48 · answer #6 · answered by Krissi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wait for the right time to talk with your brother heart to heart.
I'm sure he still love you no matter what you did, you just being you.
2006-10-31 21:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by Blue Moon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk 2 him...when ur 13...u are a teen! Besides, nothing wrong about it.
2006-10-31 21:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by alex wolfgang black 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When your brother is ready to talk about it, he will.
2006-10-31 22:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen to krissie wait until he is a bit more mature and can handle it better.
2006-10-31 21:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋