OK, i am straight, and this lesbian likes me, i mean i dont want to refuse her flat on face.
I dont know her really well, but a friend of mine told me she likes me, and i've noticed her staring at me.
HELP?!?!?!? how do i ......... reject her without hurting her feelings??
p.s. i have NOTHING against homosexuals!
2006-10-31 12:51:19 · 21 answers · asked by Mona Lisa!!! 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Handle it the same way you would if she were a guy. He respectful but send no vibes that you are interested.
If she asks you out anyway, kindly tell her you are flattered but you don't swing that way. A good person, whether girl or guy, will accept the turn down and move on.
2006-10-31 12:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The situation is a sensitive one, but treat this woman the same as you would treat a male co-worker or acquaintence with a similiar crush.
Since you do not have a close friend relationship, just remain casual. If she brings up the subject of her (supposed) attraction, then simply tell her you are straight, and not interested in her that way. If she never brings it up, but continues staring, you might try an opening conversation like "is there a spider on my head or something"? That way you can break the ice, and talk to her about whatever is on her mind. You may even become friends. Who knows?
2006-10-31 21:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What a little fix you are in! I caught a woman staring at me and was really confused on how to take it. I just turned around and was shy about it. Now, I realize I actually was blushing and liked that she was looking at me. Turns out though that she isn't gay! Strange how that worked out huh? Anyway, I don't really know how you could politely tell her. Maybe next time you catch her staring, just wave and smile. Walk up to her and say sorry and you know that she likes you and that is flattering. But, it makes you uncomfortable when people stare at you.
Other options: stare back, make a goofy face, nod your head "no" as in "no way" or you could just look away
2006-11-01 22:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to your face that nothing can happen between the two of you unless it's on a friendship basis. if she likes you, she'd understand. i know it's weird having a friend that is a lesbian, but as long as they know where they stand with you, things should be ok. i dont have lesbian friends myself, but i do have a couple of friends who are bisexual, which means they like both guys and girls, and i dont let them being bisexual getting in the way of our friendship. she needs to find someone that would accept her for who she is because it is tough being a lesbian. at the same time, she needs to like someone who is either a lesbian or a bisexual, and by the sound of it, you're not one. like i said, confront her and tell her how you feel because there's nothing worse than ignoring her and making her feel rejected even more. if you dont wanna hurt her feelings, tell her you would like to be strictly friends and nothing more.
2006-10-31 20:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by kristyb872001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, probably the best thing you can do, is be flattered.
Maybe she was staring at you because you had macaroni on your face?
Anyways, if she tries to make any advance you, just tell her the truth, that you're straight, and you find her attraction to you flattering, but, you like boys.
I'm sure she'll be okay with that.
2006-10-31 20:54:33 · answer #5 · answered by Sylvie M 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her your flattered, but your not interested because you like boys. Tell her you would be ok with being her friend, but make that clear that thats all it is.
Its really not that complicated honey, if you didnt like a boy staring at you cause he wasnt your type, would u be this worried about it? Its really no different.
2006-10-31 20:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by arielsalom33 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she starts hitting on you or asks you out, just tell her that you're not interested. You can admit that you're straight if you want. All you should have to say is that you're not interested in her. If she's making you feel uncomfortable let her know.
2006-11-01 03:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SHE'D RESPECT U MORE IF U RESPECTED UR SELF AND TELL HER THAT U DON'T GO THAT WAY ALTHOUGH U R FLATTERED THAT SHE IS ATTRACTED TO U. U MUST BE ONE HOT MAMA IF ANOTHER CHICK IS ATTRACTED TO U. BUT REALLY HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY AND U CAN STILL BE FRIENDS. MY SISTER WAS GAY AND HAD HUNDREDS OF STRAIGHT FEMALE FRIENDS WHO RESPECTED EACH OTHER BECAUSE THEY WERE STRAIGHT WITH EACH OTHER FROM THE GET GO. SHE'LL GET OVER U SOON ENOUGH.
2006-10-31 20:57:48 · answer #8 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cannot reject someone and not hurt their feelings. if you have to tell them that you're not interested then it's fine. people get rejected many times that another one will not hurt.
2006-10-31 22:07:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her you would like to be her friend but be sure she knows you are straight and that you are into guys only. if she comes on to you tell her though you are flattered you are not les or bi only hetero and she should back off easily.
2006-10-31 21:39:01 · answer #10 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋