we have been married for three years and he has cheated on me several times. He's lied about his daughter beeing sick to go spend weekends away with other women.We had a fight one night becuse he was using drugs and I got cut really bad(NOT INTENTIONAL) but he called the police on me and I got locked up on crutches. he has done so much dirt that I can't forgive or forget. I have done every thing in my power to prove my love and I was the wife that did it all.what ever he needed I provided especially in the bedroom. But I finally had enough. Now my husband has been trying to act like a husband but I am numb from all the pain.There is someone from my past who was my soul mate who is incarcerated now but will be home in 2 years. I am still in love with him and he is still in love with me. Should I go back to my soul mate.?
2006-10-31 12:48:39 · 31 answers · asked by sex-c-one 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your in a mess, you're a mess, and you mean to tell me that you are thinking about getting out of that mess and jumping head first into a bigger mess...girl get it together. Stay if you want to stay and leave if you want to leave, but you need a backbone and some wisdom. I hope you get it!!!!!!!
2006-10-31 12:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by annettetyler77 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to divorce your husband immediately before you end up with an incurable disease. If you contract AIDS because he is cheating your life will surley be over. Is he worth it? I don't think so. Besides, he does not love or respect you. And as for this other guy who is incarcerated, you don't even need to go there. You are setting yourself up for more of the same. Something is also wrong with him because he's incarcerated. He also has some issues. You need to go to counseling and talk about your feelings. It would be very helpful to you to find out why you are selling yourself short and settling for these guys with all of these issues. Right now you need to get a divorce and focus ion rebuilding your life. How can you love someone else when you don't love yourself? If you truly felt good about yourself, you would never put up with either one of these individuals. There is a good book called Women Who Love Too Much. Go out and get yourself a copy. It's the best gift you can give yourself.
2006-10-31 13:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
With all this happening, it seems so horrible that he would do such a thing to you. But think about this - do you still love him? Do you think he is improving his behavior? And what about your daughter? What will she think of this? It will be very hard for her if you separate from him.
However, doing so might be a good thing. If you spend the rest of your life in misery, your daughter will feel the same pain. You could end up treating her badly as a result of what your husband is doing to you. And what about your happiness? Having a loving soul mate is crucial in having a healthy lifestyle.
In these two years, observe your husband. Ponder over whether you love him or not. Think about your daughter's happiness. Finalize your decision then.
2006-10-31 12:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by Viridian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go back to God and pray. You need a lot of it. Your husband treated you the way you wanted to be treated. Men like your husband and spot, you are the type to let me walk all over you. and the one in the jail cell is waiting for his turn because more than most likely it will be the same thing. Get you some help, and find out what really going on with you. good luck
2006-10-31 13:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by Ellen J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the husband... forget about the guy in jail... he's needs a crutch right now and will tell you anything, till he's a free bird...
Find something to occupy your time and mind and then move on and find someone new and get a fresh restart in life...
2006-11-02 01:06:59 · answer #5 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! You are living a nightmare and desperately need to wake up. You need to gather what little dignity and respect you have for yourself and rebuild that before jumping into another relationship. How can you prove to be a wife currently but secretly love another man - you contradict yourself. Get away from all this - find yourself - love yourself. If you dont truly love yourself - how can anyone else ever truly love you?
2006-10-31 12:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by etile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move forward.. and take some time by yourself to sort out what you really want. Be careful of going from the frying pan into the fire.. Be nice to yourself, life is too short to waste on anybody else if they do not respect and love you.
There is someone out there now that could be the one waiting for you to release yourself from all this grief..
best wishes to you..
2006-10-31 12:54:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the husband and forget the 'soul mate'. You need to learn how to take care of you, alone. The husband you get why you are leaving. The 'soul mate'...if you believe you deserve to live on pause for 2 years then maybe he is your soul mate.
2006-10-31 12:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by Omni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What, you need to listen to yourself, your husband has cheated on you and you are still there. well i wonder why he keeps cheating, no reason to stop. And now he is trying to be right and you are done. So move out and move on. Why would you want to wait on man who is in prison. You need some couseling and some help. This is really sad, I wish you luck God bless
2006-10-31 12:55:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know about going back with your soul mate, but i think your smart enough to know that you shouldnt settle and be with the guys your with now. Ya know its funny sometimes when we get into these screwed up realtionships, what we accept as normal. My advice... find a good codependency group, get in it. I dont know you, but I know that you deserve to be happy, and if hes not doing it for you then get out.
2006-10-31 12:55:47 · answer #10 · answered by Sandman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not?How could he be worse then the bum you've been calling your husband.The other guy is not incarcerated for a violent crime is he?Now 2yrs. is a while to wait but ,if you really love the guy.It could work out.Whatever you do good luck and stay safe.
2006-10-31 13:15:16 · answer #11 · answered by star_utsf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋