I wish i could date a man i like, but i don't think he likes me.He's apparently shy.Also the ones that likes me are very extremes in ages, one is 72 years old and another 18 years old.One too old another too young. On the other hand, my ex won't stay with the kids,only Sundays, maybe he doesn't want me to have free time. I feel i have a boring life.What can i do ? HELP PLEASE !!!!
2006-10-31 12:23:08 · 10 answers · asked by rssy r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your decisions are what put you in this position. buck up, tell the man you like him.maybe he thinks you're too shy. do what's right for the kids. always put the kids first, because what you say and do wrong now is something they'll face possibly earlier in their life.
2006-10-31 12:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by Chelsea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard. It's too bad that the dad doesn't take more responsibility. No, he wants you to suffer. especially if he's hsving to pay support. Look, you need a man that will take the kids too. so, get out there with them to the park, to the library, or wherever parents take kids. There are a lot of men with kids today and you n=may meet a niv=ce one that is in the same boat. If this shy guy is agreeable just ask him if he'd like to go with you all to a park or the zoo or something. Maybe he'd be more comfortable with the kids. Can't ever tell. Then he'll know what he's in for and ir might be ok, or not. But if it's meant to be he will be ok. Do you have anyone that can keep them for a while? Get involved with a church singles group or go to one of the restaurants that caters to kids, may be a dad there with his kid. There has to be some way to do it. Get the kids out and socialize them so they will be ready when a new man comes along. Switch out with a friend you sit for her if she will for you ...try something and don't go to bars, no good men there. What about minature golf, bowling? good luck.
2006-10-31 12:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, It's time to get outta your comfort zone. No, I'm not talking about dating women or joining a biker gang. Quite the opposite. There is a place where you get to go and have conversations with men your own age, Deep conversations, your kids are in house and being taken care of by a nice grandma type or sweet young girls who like kids. 9 times out of 10 there is food and beverages (no alcohol) This place is open Wed. nights, sometimes Thursday nights but usually at someones house, Sunday mornings and Sunday nights. That's 4 times you get to go out to meet people, good people, and It doesn't cost a penny! Have you guessed it yet? When I said get outta your comfort zone I meant it. Most people aren't comfortable at church or their outings. Let me ask you this. Your off on Sundays, so what damage can happen if you go check this place out. They aren't going to rip your heart out or play with snakes, well only on 60 minutes. They have softball in the summer also camping! Winter is usually focused on the kids having fun but I go there anyhow just to get a good laugh. You'll learn, sing, and meet some nice people. Don't think they are all winners though! There are some real bozo's there. But, hey, it's like pick and choose!
2006-10-31 12:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that you can do is---seriously entertain the idea of dating with men who you strongly believe will be worth your time. I don't believe that dating a 72 year old man is worth your time and energy. For that matter, an 18 year old is too immature for you. In my opinion neither of these suitors will do.
The man that you mentioned---how do you know for certain that he is not interested in you? Have you approached him?
You may want to start going out with a group of girlfriends---maybe from the workplace, in your neighborhood, etc. It's generally referred to as "girls night out." If your ex-husband will not watch the children---then go on down the list....ask your mother, your teenage niece if you have one, your teenage next door neighbor if you have one, or the daughter of one of your girlfriends.
Teenagers love to baby-sit for the extra cash, and you can have a decent night out away from the kids and not on a Sunday.
2006-10-31 12:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by roddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are looking to the wrong men to make you happy. The only man that will ever bring real, true, lasting happiness is Jesus Christ. Why don't you give Him a call, His line is never busy, and He always answers His calls. When you make Jesus the man in your life, everything else will fall right into place. And you will be happier than you ever dreamed possible. I promise!
2006-10-31 15:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by dineyb68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman with children, at the age of thirty, should not be bored in any way.. I do not know how old your children are, however, when I was thirty , I had no children and was not bored!
When I was thirty-five I had my first child, that I waited 11 1/2 years for., When They got old enough, I went and did anything I could with them, knowing that some day they would not be at home with me and it was my responsibility as mom to teach them as much as I could about going into the world for themselves..
I took pride in teaching them how to do everyday things. I also enjoyed going on walks with them, riding my bike with them, having a garden with them, taking care of the small animals with them, I took them everywhere with me. As they got older they got horses, I waited many times for hours at the barn for them and transported them to shows and took pride in the ribbons they won. I had no time to get bored! We had no TV in the house, we read stories together, played games together and just had a good time together!
If one decides to shut out their family life, they will be bored. There is no life more boring than a selfish person looking for things that they only want to do. It shows in any relationship and will cause much discord. Togetherness will cause happiness.
So get involves with your chldren, the rest will fall in place.
2006-10-31 12:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be blunt.
I just love blunt women.
Ask if he wants to come over for a beer and hang out. Makes it like a friendship that can easily turn into a horizontal dance if all goes well.
2006-10-31 12:30:20 · answer #7 · answered by scott in minnesota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont become a recluse , get out there and meet people . Go to college and study for a new job , or just go out more and socialise. You will get there , just be patient and dont rush into the first thing if it doesnt feel right.
2006-10-31 12:29:35 · answer #8 · answered by peter j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-31 15:11:10 · answer #9 · answered by Edward N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont rush it, time will come to pass
2006-10-31 12:26:38 · answer #10 · answered by ya girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋