instantly feel attraction or did it grow over time? I met this guy that is really nice and is everything I'm looking for in a boyfriend but, I don't feel attracted to him. Will this change with time?
2006-10-31 12:13:05 · 21 answers · asked by cee cee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was instantly attracted to him physically but you don't really get to know the real person until you get to know their personality. It took time for me to be 100% attracted to my boyfriend, meaning physically and personality wise, even though we clicked straight away. Some people you instantly are attracted to and others it takes time, but it doesn't mean you don't care for them any less. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and we still learn so much about one another and makes the attraction grow.
2006-10-31 13:51:27 · answer #1 · answered by pinkboopy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my boyfriend 4 years ago. He was in my class and I noticed him instantly. He just kind of jumped out at me and for some reason I always remembered him particularly but I guess not necessarily in the boyfriend type way. So for a while we were friends and I fell in love with him. It just grew over time but throughout it all, I had this deep sense of caring for him.
But sometimes, just because a guy is nice and has all those qualities doesnt mean that you'll be attracted. You have to share that connection. So if you dont feel an attraction, dont force it. Time will tell.
2006-10-31 12:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by Ani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is said that when you are in love, you cannot hide it. You are not only attracted but you feel the other person to be very special, someone you are proud of and admire everything about. Over time, unless the two work at it, this attraction begins to fade under the pressures of real life issues (job, children, needs & wants, etc.). So, I would question this situation. My guess is that what you describe will make for great friends not lovers or beloveds. But you can never take for granted matters of the heart. He may grow on you...
2006-10-31 12:42:22 · answer #3 · answered by thunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All people are different, I was immediately attracted to my fiancee, but I have also dated guys that the attraction grew over time. I guess it may just depend on where you are in life, I don't know. But the first time I saw him, I wanted him and that feeling has grown more and more over time. Just give yourself time, you never know what will happen, good luck.
2006-11-01 06:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't feel instant attraction when I met my husband. My feelings grew in time and in about 6months, you can tell if you guys are in the same page and want to have a future together.
2006-10-31 19:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well give it some time and see how it plays out. Something has to be there for you not to feel attracted to him. You will get it all figured out just don't fall in love for all the wrong reason's
2006-10-31 12:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The attraction grew over time with my boyfriend.
2006-10-31 12:14:50 · answer #7 · answered by i luv teh fishes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first met my husband, I was not too sure, but gave it time and oh how my love grew the more I got to know him. Now, I can not imagine life without him.
2006-10-31 12:16:02 · answer #8 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the way it sounds it looks like the most you'll ever see him as is a best friend CuZ in the beginning you should at least fell attracted to him just a lil....... (looks don matter to me so don get me wrong) take care.....
2006-10-31 12:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by Faith_aka_Liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,
i was medically evacuated from over seas to national naval medical center for treatment and rehab.
times were tough and I met her through email, then pictures, then face to face eventually. I showed up wearing my uniform.
We sent emails back and forth for some time so when we finally met, we were already deep in love.
2006-10-31 12:18:56 · answer #10 · answered by scott in minnesota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋