Now before you launch into a fit about how materialistic you think I am, I want you to consider something. As you sit there in your outrage, thinking 'I don't go out with people because of their money!' ask yourself when you last went out with a homeless, smelly or unkempt person. Never? Well, let me tell you why. Soap costs money. Shampoo costs money. Deodorant costs money. Haircuts cost money. Clothes cost money. Food costs money. A house or flat (even a crappy rental) costs money. Getting the picture? Now, not that many of us are running around singing 'Material Girl' as our anthems, but let's face it - money may not the be all and end all, but it's not irrelevant, either.
2006-10-31 12:06:13 · 13 answers · asked by The Mad Shillelagh 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
There are some people who pursue the wealthy, but it is *less* relevant to others.
Yes, I expect my man to wash himself, otherwise I wouldn't have the stomach to be around him, much less be intimate with him, so yes, money for soap and other hygiene-related items becomes important. I also want a man who is in the same intellectual range as I am, and I can't stand laziness, so yes, I want him to have a job. I wouldn't leave my husband if he lost his job, but I certainly couldn't respect him if he didn't look for another one. Another point: Why are most homeless people homeless? It isoften (though not *always*) related to alcolism or substance abuse of some sort. To me that would also be a deal-breaker. I have given food to the homeless, but no, I would not consider such a person as a life partner. What may stop a person from being with someone who is destitute may not be just lack of money itself, but the reasons they are behind this lack of money, including the ones I have just cited (laziness, inferior intellect, substance abuse, hygiene, etc).
2006-11-01 07:02:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your general point ... but not totally. It lacks the foresight a person would have using attraction to look for a long term partner, if this is the goal. More than lack of money, I would simply be turned off by a non-soap user (if you will) because of their smell! A lot more goes into attraction that just the size of someones pocket book.
Although money will provide a comfortable lifestyle, in the long run, it won't grantee a successful relationship. It takes thought into the matter to see what will happen in the long run, not dollar signs.
2006-10-31 20:12:33 · answer #2 · answered by emmyfair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your argument is weak. Soap is cheap (in fact, it can be stolen quite easily from public facilities), and baths, shampoo and deodorant can be had at any shelter worth the name. Clothes can be had for free or near-free. I know. I've worked in several shelters. The kinds of people who are chronically unclean are that way by choice. It's not money that's the turn-off, but a potential combination of laziness, ignorance and possible mental illness.
The amount of money necessary for base survival might be a factor in attraction, but a rather limited one. And it works both ways. Think about certain obnoxious-yet-wealthy people who think that their financial status can actually buy them a personality.
2006-10-31 20:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I totally agree with you and I'm glad you wrote that. I always make that point and all of my friends are like "Whats wrong with you?" My boyfriend has a Corvette and we can do fun things like go to his season ticket football games and good shows, and thats fun and attractive! I'm not saying I couldn't fall for someone with less money, but there's nothing wrong with liking people who have the money to live it up, especially when your just dating.
2006-10-31 20:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by charlottesamanthamirandacarrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who is a homeless man and lives out of his car. He drops by for a meal occasionally. We've been friends for 33 years. He buys Polos at the thrift store and looks great. So, in my opinion it is not relevant at all.
2006-10-31 20:22:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you just mentioned the basic necessities; our needs not our wants, there is a difference. Now concerning your question, I know someone that is attracted to wealth; I consider them extremely shallow and superficial; this is not a close friend by any means, and I don't respect them at all because of it.
2006-10-31 20:15:35 · answer #6 · answered by nicky 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yo dude, your forgetting one important part.
Homeless people are not sane.
A person would have to be INsane to not want to take care of themselves and provide shelter for themselves.
Every animal finds himself a home and cleans himself.
Money is only relevant when your man doesn't support himself. ALL men should support themselves.
2006-10-31 20:38:40 · answer #7 · answered by the nothing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your right, money matters.
I would like for my guy to be equally if not more prosperous than me. I'm not trying to be a sugar momma
and I don't need a sugar daddy......well maybe if hes hella cute!
2006-10-31 20:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥Peas♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's not irrelevant. I take care of myself, and I would want to be with someone who does the same.
2006-10-31 20:19:31 · answer #9 · answered by ßαßε 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money AND POWER. I have very little of either and I don't care
2006-10-31 20:09:03 · answer #10 · answered by Nemesis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋