My friend is stright but say's i'm the only girl she's ever been attracted to is that normal is she stright or bi-sexual?
2006-10-31 11:55:01 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think it is very normal. There are girls that I find myself attracted to all the time...doesn't mean I want to sleep with them. I just find them attractive and appealing. (I'm straight by the way.) But don't feel the need to put a lable on her.
2006-10-31 12:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by lion75 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Contemporary research clearly shows that human sexuality is a spectrum, like the color band. One opposite "ends" of the spectrum are those people who are strictly attracted to either the opposite sex, or, the same sex. In the middle are the vast majority of us who are bisexual to various degrees. It is quite normal for women to be attracted to one another. Men too, but they usually have such rigid and up tight cultural attitudes that they just deny it and pretend they are slapping each others butts because it is manly to do that. Yeah, right. Lol.
2006-10-31 11:59:51 · answer #2 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not "normal", but it can happen.
I guess it depends on the kind of attraction she has for you. If she sees you (and only you, or along a select few other women) as a potential sex/romantic partner - and normally feels that way towards men, she'd be a "situational bisexual". That means, she's only bisexual when things are placed in a certain way. In this case, when you're present in her world. But then, there's the issue of how she sees you. Maybe you're more of a man than a woman in her eyes?
You see, I have experiences that may be similar to that of your friend. Years ago, I sort of "had feelings" for a "gay" friend. Although I, and everyone else considered him as a gay dude, in my eyes, he was more of a "girl" than a male homosexual. He had pleasant qualities that were usually attributed to girls, and he was basically a "great girl", only that he's a guy. I also had a crush on another "gay" who really looked like a girl. I had infatuations with guys that aren't too musculine. And just recently, I've gone as far as relieving my anger and hatred towards the world by fantasizing on *raping* and *abusing* certain effeminate male subjects - originally intended to test my sexuality, but later evolved to an expression of anger and hatred towards the world.
Now, do those things automatically make me a part of the gay or bi community? I don't think so. If I'm gay/bi, those things would have prospered and I would be craving more of it. . . but I don't. Besides, If I were gay/bi, I probably would have been attracted to or infatuated with masculinity instead of effemininity. For the record, I've never felt the urge to see a naked man whether in porn or in reality, let alone seen myself in a homosexual relationship. I've seen pictures and drawings of guys engaged in sex or cuddling/kissing thrown in in both porn and non-porn galleries, and seeing those never turned me on if not disgusted me - and that's saying a lot since I'm turned on by fetishes that most people consider "sick" - heterosexual incest being one of them.
Of course, people can say things like I'm just in denial, but that's just their perception, and perception is not reality. There are so many factors involved in determining one's true sexuality, and yet, people delibrately ignore a lot of things and focus on what their eyes readily see.
2006-10-31 16:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by deadpure 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is normal to be attracted to someone in your own gender. According to the research done in the USA recently, more than half of the people admitted they have been either sexually and/or emotionally attached to someone in their own gender. There is nothing wrong with being a bisexual or gay. Let time decide. =)
2006-10-31 11:58:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's pretty normal. Straight women don't tend to get as squicked out by homosexual fantasies as straight men do, though they are (statistically, ie as a generalization) less likely to try and act on the fantasy.
2006-10-31 17:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by angiekaos 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She couldn't be straight... If she was straight, she'd be repulsed even by the idea of a girl coming close near her neckline. There a feeling of repulsion, not attraction if she's straight. I'd suspect something...
2006-10-31 11:58:02 · answer #6 · answered by summation 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes we all feel that way sometimes. no ones 100% straight. the way to find out if you're gay or not is to think about a naked man and woman. which ever one appeals more is the gender you like most.
2006-10-31 12:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being curious doesn't mean being gay or bisexual. She may even act on her attraction but it does not mean one or the other.
2006-10-31 11:58:33 · answer #8 · answered by micg 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No that is not normal. I f you are not interested in her then you need to tell her.
2006-10-31 11:59:46 · answer #9 · answered by yakity_one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very normal.
I think it's quite a comment.
2006-10-31 11:58:40 · answer #10 · answered by frozendreamer1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋